incidences happen especially when you work as a waitress in a bar. so this is what happened before my last incident (my second last question)
we use to wear a pink mini dress, top is spaghetti strap and bottom is of course mini skirt. I would wear some shorts under but there are openings on the sides that goes up to the waist. in addition, we have to wear nude pantyhose. i wear silver heels. so anyways, guys have been trying to and they did look up my skirt. like i notice this everytime i bend to serve a drink.Those guys have also been dropping coins and napkins around me too. But since i m dressed like that, i was like w/e and just let them see. I just wear a thong under the pantyhose cuz if i use panties, part of it would be visible, so its not that appealing. The other thing is that guys love to touch my leg. they slap my thigh and claim they just want to call on me, that I also just let them go. Then they started lifting my skirt.
2007-03-27 11:39:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
since theres like only a piece of cloth in the front and one in the back to cover my butt, everytime i bend over to serve a drink, they lift it up. that doesn't happen so often so I accepted their apology.
Here are the ones that made me kinda mad, one time this guy poured beer down my chest. He pretend to be nice and help me wipe it but he grabbed my titts. i just told him to stop and i can take care of it myself.
This time was like the worst, there were like 5 guys who had been staring at me the whole time and I heard them say stuff like hey check out her *** and stuff. well they were about to leave and i was like great. so i went to collect their drinks and one of them poured his on my dress. Immediately his friends surrounded me and one of them grabbed the front of my dress and began to wipe it, one friend grabbed the back. another friend grabbed my left leg so my legs were spread. all their other hands were brushing my thighs.
2007-03-27 11:46:16 · update #1
I begged them to stop but instead they went up and touched my private area and fingered me. i was holding a tray of drinks and had to balance myself on one leg. and they continued this for a few minutes and left. i was so mad, but didn't do anything about it.
2007-03-27 11:48:24 · update #2
You seem like a great person, but you do need to be a little meaner, I'm not trying to be mean, but, you do seem to be too nice, next time something like that happens, as soon as it starts, yell for the manager, and that should stop them, or you could slap them, you would be totally in the right, because that is sexual assault, plus if you asked them to stop, that's ALSO sexual harassment. So, next time, you can be prepared.
2007-03-27 12:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your taking it to easy. Tell your boss you dont like it and he will take care of the problem. Ask him if you could wear dressy pants instead of the skirt. Tell the men you do not like what they are doing to you. It is pratically sexual harasment, dont let them get away with it. My sis has the same type of job but she weres pants and guys slap her a** she told her boss and he took care of it(at least getting slapped in the a** is not as bad as guys lifting up your skirt to see whats under it.
Tell them if they spill on you again they will pay for the dry cleaning or else they will have to buy you new cloths, be a bit meaner, this happens in like all bars and pretty much all the girls hate it except for who*** and slu**
2007-03-27 11:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this, but...oh well. These guys ONLY want to get into your pants...and that's it!! You'll be like a used up bar of soap and thrown away! If that's what you want, well...go for it. Millions of girls have done the same thing often ending up with a guy who knocks them around, runs around on them, calls them names and kicks them out...with the kids! You will be another battered woman in a shelter. Your cute little bottom will fall and you will be invisible to men! I'll say it, but I know I'm wasting my "breath"...get out of that sleazy job even if you have to flip burgers. Go to a voctional school, learn a real skill, meet a man that loves you that thinks you are the very sunshine. This is possible...don't throw you life away!
2007-03-27 11:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the point of you being dressed like that is to indulge the male customers, and to incite repeat business. If you don't like it, try getting another job.
2007-03-27 13:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!!!! watch it girl! ur parents won't like that.. start slapping their faces if they do it again!!!! seriously!!! I rape and flurt with guys so u gotta watch and learn...
2007-03-27 11:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to be meaner
2007-03-27 11:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by komical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are pigges you need to go and get a diff job, now!!!!!!
2007-03-27 11:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by booty d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋