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I look at people and everyone seems happy. I work in an office and everyone seems to be friendly to each other. No one says hello to me. My roommates annoy me, I contribute it to the fact that they are a few years younger than me. So we wouldnt be on the same maturely level. I often put up a guard when around strangers and I find it difficult to trust people. When I get home from work, while my roommates are in the living room talking and hanging out. I just want to be in my room by myself and listen to my music. I am sarcastic a lot, but I can't help it. If someone asks me a question it just comes out. Am I socially withdrawn? Do I have anger problems?

2007-03-27 11:35:59 · 6 answers · asked by Dro Esquire 1 in Social Science Psychology

6 answers

I've been there. The whole "people suck" attitude. withdrawn, angry, a little of both. You need to get a place of your own! Get away from all these people for a while. Take a vacation to someplace secluded, or just park up on a hill for a while, learn to enjoy the silence and appreciate it while it lasts.

Just don't go phycho-killer on us.

2007-03-27 11:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by April J 4 · 0 0

Nothing wrong with you, thats just how you are - a miserable sod. we can't all be cheerful, happy polite people can we? The world would be a boring place otherwise.
I'm the extreme opposite, I'm overly friendy and always say thank you to bus drivers and waiters. I think you're what's called an introverted personality.
If anyone on here starts saying theres something wrong with you and you need help, then no - it's them who needs help.
The whole point of the human race is that we all have different personalities, skills, quirks, likes and dislikes.
Has it ever occured to you that these so called 'happy' people at work are being fake and secretly hate their job and colleagues?, it is possible you know!!!
Carry on being you - don't end up being some kind of weird 'have a nice day' type of freak.
good luck

2007-03-27 18:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by jojo5050 3 · 0 0

Listen: You have your own unique personality and no one can
ask any more of you. You might just be more direct and don't fake things as much as others do. I happen to prefer people like you and I find sarcasm to be witty as hell!! My Dad was sarcastic and the funniest man I ever knew. He said what he meant and everyone knew where they stood with him. You have as much right to be here as anyone and you don't have to be like them or change yourself until you decide you want to, probably for a girl.

You just be proud of who you are and of your accomplishments because I get talent vibes from your writing. There is something you are fixed on and it will turn out for you because you want something. Maybe that's why you don't throw out a load a B.S. all day. Be yourself. I like you better than anyone I've talked to in weeks and I'm here all the time. Carry On and Good Luck with whatever that goal may be. @8-)

2007-03-27 18:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0 0

get a book on positive thinking and apply the methods you can create a new you If you wish to
are you can stay miserable
you know the answers

2007-03-27 18:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you talk like a victim, just grab the bull by the horns and making something good happen

2007-03-27 18:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0 0

I found this on a myspace blog....it covers a lot about life in so many different areas..I hope it helps you...Good Luck... ;-)


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A time comes in your life A time, a moment whatever???? comes in your life when you finally get it (REALLY). When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. 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2007-03-27 18:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by millstone7201 3 · 0 0

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