What is wrong with me?
I can't make a relationship last. I get bored and want to get out anywhere from a year to a year and a half into it. I have done this so many times. i really want to stop, but have some issues I guess. I don't cheet when i am dating, but after about 8 months I start thinking I could be happier. Am I too picky?
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btw, i am 33. I was married young (16)and it lasted 7 years. I left because I felt we changed so much in our views and personalities from when we were younger.(no, i never cheated)
2007-03-27 11:28:19 · 21 answers · asked by my_thoughts 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol, i am not on welfair. I am very financially stable. more so than most women and men my age, if not older than me. But thanks for your comment there Diva! :-)
2007-03-27 14:01:29 · update #1
lol, i am not on welfair. I am very financially stable. more so than most women and men my age, if not older than me. But thanks for your comment there ! :-)
2007-03-27 14:02:06 · update #2
Maybe nothing is wrong with you. It is very possible that you are a wanderer. Once you understand that you aren't looking for a long time relationship you will be happier in the relationships you have. You did the married thing and who says you have to do it again? You are not being picky but you are expecting too much from yourself.
2007-03-27 12:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just haven't met someone compatible. Not every relationship's going to work out. The problem may even be not that you don't stay in relationships long enough - but that you stay too long in relationships that are ultimately not going to work. Perhaps you should try and recognize the signs earlier, and not waste many months on a relationship that doesn't quite feel right. Date more. Quantity might just turn into quality one day - all you need is this one person. But if you waste a year on each deadbeat relationship, you're cutting down on your chances to find that person; I think you just have to be more decisive, and keep looking.
2007-03-27 11:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While 33 is still young, it is time you start to realize that no-one can make you happy. You have to do that for yourself. Be happy with yourself and all other things will follow. You will get back exactly what you put out there. Love yourself first so others can share in your happiness. Then the problem of relying on someone else to make you happy won't be an issue. Start today for a better tomorrow.
2007-03-27 11:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by keepin'' it real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issue is a matter of trying to go back and get what you missed (from 16-23). You have not gotten enough of what you need (being "happier") yet. You need to determine when you will be "happier" enough, because this will not continue forever.
When the men in your life get "bored" of your 18-month relationships, eventually they will become reluctant to get involved in the first place. When will you be ready to exchange bored for lonely?
2007-03-27 11:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work at a relationship to make it work. It doesn't just happen when you just go about your life day after day. Maybe you're sick of the guys because you don't like the work you have to put in. People do change, but you have to work around this and grow together. Or maybe you only like the 'infatuation' part, but aren't really in love with these men.
2007-03-27 11:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought! It's not up to you to MAKE a relationship last. If it has the legs it will do it on it's own. You can't make something happen that isn't meant to happen. Be as picky as you wish, it's the rest of your life we're talking about here, not a weekend at the Beach. Choose wisely.
2007-03-27 11:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised you married at 16 and it lasted that long. My guess would be you are making up for lost youth. You never had the chance to "play the field". When you find the right guy you will no longer feel the urge to run.
2007-03-27 11:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting bored with relationships, maybe you are with the wrong people. Are someone who can't be alone or jump into relationships too soon?
If this isn't the case, maybe you should be alone for awhile and reflect on who you are and what you want.
2007-03-27 11:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by lyzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong . Just think you may be settling on someone when you should wait for the right one. Most importantly be happy with life and do whats best for you.
2007-03-27 11:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by mrgquesmooth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were married @ 16 and for 7 years u just want to date i think and who would blame u u lost ur youth
2007-03-27 11:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋