i dont know what to do.my best friend will beat the crap out of me if i cheated on his sister.marie wont let me see charlie(my daughter).what am i to do?
i dont want to be with a guy right now.but i still get turned on.i really do love marie.oh man why did i ever get her pregnant.
her brother,my best friend,even though hes 29 years old.he and i had a fling 2 years ago,so he was mad when he found out about me and mar.i dont want to lose anything or anybody.not my friend,not my daughter and not marie.how can i stop these urges for other guys?
2007-03-27 11:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by dream_hawk22 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
maybe.but everything is different with a child involved.no 3somes for me anymore.lol
2007-03-27 11:24:20 · update #1
stop worrying so much.everyone knows you are crazy about mari.yes you will always be bi.but you are too nice a guy to act on those feelings.thats what makes you a great friend,and boyfriend to whoever dates you.HE would be mad yes,but he would never hurt you.and marie would understand you know deep down in your heart,thats why you are with her and why you love her so much.
2007-03-27 12:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by conner_conner11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your situation is a bit too complicated to portray accurately over Yahoo answers, but I think you're looking in the wrong direction trying to stop your urges for other guys. If you are bi, which it certainly sounds like you are, you'll only be miserable trying to stop your natural tendencies. If you've fathered a child, you should take responsibility for your actions and help with your daughter as much as you can. However, you shouldn't sacrifice your own needs in order to do this. You can help raise your daughter without staying in a relationship with Marie. If you love this woman, but still want men, then maybe monogamy isn't for you. You could suggest an open relationship if it's alright with her. Unfortunately, her brother might never understand or accept it. It doesn't sound like there will be any pain-free resolution to this situation, but try to do what you can for your daughter while also keeping in mind what you need to do to keep yourself happy as well. You won't be any good to her if you are so unhappy. It sounds like you might need some time to figure yourself out.
2007-03-27 11:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Technopygmalion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goodness, you got yourself in a bit of a situation...
i guess it's easier said than done, but you need to learn to control your impulses and stop stressing over it, if you can do that then everything will be fine.
still, it is a far too serious question for you to be listening to the busybodies on here (obviously incl. me!). if it really bothers you that much, i would suggest you look for professional help in forms of therapy etc.
don't get me wrong, there is nothing to be "fixed", but you need to be able to channel these energies and thoughts so that they don't build up inside you, cos that would only make things worse.
2007-03-27 14:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by furryeyeballs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you sound like you've got a lot of troubles, I'm sorry. If you're bi, you're bi. But that doesn't mean that you'll be unfaithful to someone you love.
2007-03-27 11:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Voight-Kampff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bi guys are fairly rare compared to Bi girls...
2007-03-27 11:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some time for yourself to think about your feelings. It will help a lot.
2007-03-27 11:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may lose interest in both one day.
2007-03-27 11:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie u cant help it no one can and if you do leave marie u will regret it for the rest of you life
2007-03-27 11:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by So... Kiss Me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a choice- it's all in your head- you choose
2007-03-27 15:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Saved <>< 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the 3sum
2007-03-27 11:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋