Interracial couples: Do you receive dirty looks or get nasty comments from people?

Question

Or has it gotten better. I'm currently in one and we haven't experienced any negativity at all. But I just wanted to know if other interracial couples experience that.

I'm asking you all, I haven't experienced negativity. I'm always polite....

Yes, that's me in the picture, thank you!!

Answer 1

I am interracially married and have not noticed anything for years. I am sure I get dirty looks but I am usually so focused on what I am doing or whare I am going that I don't notice.

But, about 10 years ago my husband and I stopped at a convienence store on a Sunday morning. As he was getting out of the car he asked me if I needed anything and used a term of endearment toward me.

It was a warm day and 2 older black women had pulled into the slot next to us dressed as if they'd just come from church. (They had their "church hats" on which was my real clue.) My husband went on his way and as I am sitting there I am hearing the ladies next to me talking about what a shame it was to see the races mixing and what did he (my husband) do that he couldn't get a white girl.

Well I was taught to respect my elders but could not just let it pass. I started looking around the car for anything I could go put in the trash can. As I was getting out of the car, there they were staring me down with their lips twisted up. I commented on the weather and inquired if they'd been to church. When they responded that they had and began to tell me about the sermon I told them that they better hurry up and get back there because they forgot to bring Jesus with them.

My husband exited the store and saw the ladied looking at me like :O so I explained what had happened. I know that they knew exactly what I was talking about and could see the shame on their faces. What I could not figure out is if they were really ashamed of themselves or embarassed that I'd heard them

I think things ave gotten a lot better at least for me where I live and I really hope that you will be happy with your current relationship. Don't expect negativity and enjoy your time together.

Answer 2

I'm not in an interracial relationship. But, I have witnessed people making nasty remarks in a restaurant of all places to an interracial couple. That was a few years ago though. In my opinion, who cares what anyone thinks. If that other person makes you happy, that is all that counts. And I am happy for you.

Answer 3

My parents are interracial and they haven't gotten any dirty looks or nasty comments from anyone. I think the idea of interracial relationships has gotten better over the years becuase people are dating and marrying others outside of their race.

Answer 4

No nasty comments. Many dirty looks in the past, but ones of curiosity as well. Going out to eat always got us a few looks, good and bad, especially after the kids were in the picture. Nothing major. We've been lucky--I've heard some bad stories.

Hardly anyone glances our way anymore. It's become more common to see interracial couples. When my hubby and I first started dating, it was not.

Answer 5

A little bit. It's to be expected. Interracial couples/marriages aren't something that most of this country is ready to accept. That's okay though because I still love my sugar boo.

Answer 6

I am white and believe in protecting my 'white christian' heritage. My perogative. There are many black people who would share the same view, ie..protecting their race.
I know many inter-racial couples, a really good friend of mine is married to a black man (her being white). Do I agree? No. She understands and respects my life style as I do hers. Being mature adults, we except our different ways of life and thinking.
However, she has expressed to me that not everyone is so respectful or nice to her. She has gotten a few comments and now she is suspicious of anyone that might look their way. She has gotten to the point where she is always double guessing what people say to her.

Live life and be happy. It could all be over tomorrow.

Answer 7

Sometimes, I am Vietnamese and my wife is puertorican/jamican, and we get looks sometimes, but that is just what people do, I used to get mad about it, and sometimes had confrontations, because they used to talk behind our backs and I would get in there face, or they might say something about our daughters, and then when I say something they just are suddenly quiet, but it is mostly Black people that look, before I was arrested for assualt for beating up this black guy that called my daughter a combination of two racial slurs, and my friends helped too so that was kool lol. But I got over that and now its okay, let them look and hate, its just all ignorance, and if you are happy then **** them.

Answer 8

When we go to places with a lot of people like the mall or theme parks we normally get a couple of weird looks but no one has ever made any comments.

Answer 9

I went to church with a group of friends. I'm black and the person that stood next to me was white. The couple in front of us wouldn't shake my friend's hand. The guy shook mine but not my friend's and their kids just shared at us and didn't say anything.

Answer 10

The term "venereal disease" or VD, was initially given to the diseases syphilis and gonorrhoea, which were once thought to be a single disease. The term "venereal" emphasises the part played by sex in the spread of diseases that would not otherwise be considered as a single group. Sexually transmitted disease (STD) is not the same as genital disease in fact, most genital diseases are not caused by sexually transmitted organisms. However, most sexually transmitted infections do involve the genitals. Infection of the rectum, throat, and conjunctiva of the eye are also common, but initial infection of other parts of the body is rare. Several sexually transmitted diseases spread from an initial site and produce sores in many parts of the body.

There is fairly consistent agreement that at least a dozen diseases are sexually transmitted. See Statistic Section for their relative frequencies in South Australia. In some countries lymphogranuloma venereum (LGV), chancroid, and donovanosis are also included in the legal definition of venereal disease, causing many people to seek treatment at STD clinics, but they are not regarded as STDs. Although the causative organisms can be passed on during sexual intercourse, they occur commonly in a large proportion of the population and the symptoms usually result from some illness or lowered resistance in the infected person.

In western society, sexually transmitted diseases occur mainly in people 15 to 30 years of age. However, some younger people are also affected and in some underdeveloped communities infection is common in older individuals. People with one sexually transmitted infection are usually at high risk for other diseases common in the same environment. In South Australia, many clients attending a clinic solely "for an AIDS test" are found to have one or two and sometimes even more STDs, even though their AIDS test is usually negative.

For many STDs, more male cases are reported than female cases. In some communities, a limited number of women (e.g. prostitutes) may have sex with a large number of men. Also, infection passed on by homosexual contact may increase the proportion of male infections. In many parts of the world (not Australia), 50 percent or more of reported syphilis infections result from homosexual contact.

The statistics on sex differences may not reflect the actual situation however, because infected women often show no symptoms and are more difficult to diagnose than men. The fact that many infected women show no symptoms of STDs is especially unfortunate since the complications can be quite serious in pregnant women. Infections such as syphilis, herpes, cytomegalovirus, and HIV infection may be passed on either to the foetus or during childbirth. The foetus or baby may suffer from the disease and in some cases die from it.

The management of STDs involves three parts: treatment, counselling, and follow-up. Standard types of treatment have been developed for most STDs. Wherever possible treatment is given in a single dose, but in some cases continues for a longer time. The doctor or health worker should always explain the disease, its treatment, and other aspects of its management to the client. A person may remain infected even if symptoms disappear, or may become reinfected immediately after treatment, so a follow-up visit is important. To avoid possible spread of infection the infected person should not have sex until the follow-up visit has confirmed the cure (usually from three to fourteen days after the end of treatment). The sex partners of clients with any venereal infection should also seek medical examination. This helps prevent further spread throughout the community and also reduces the chances of reinfection for the original client. "Ping-pong" infection —passing disease back and forth between two partners who are treated alternately—can be prevented if both partners seek treatment together.