My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 20 months. This would be our second child. Well finally it has happened. I am 7 weeks pregnant today... (YAY). But here's the thing...I am soooo worried that I will miscarry. I never felt this way with my first pregnancy. I feel that it took us so long to get pregnant, now I finally am, and now something will happen to take it away from me. Am I being silly? Am I being parranoid? Has anyone else been in a situation like this or similar to this?
2007-03-27 11:06:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Worrying is not going to cause you to miscarry as some people said. Saying this will only make a woman who has miscarried feel like it is her fault because she was worried - miscarriage is traumatic enough without people making you feel like you caused it. In most cases miscarriage is not caused by something the mother did, especially worrying about her pregnancy!
It is absolutely normal to worry when it has taken you a long time to conceive and people who haven't been in that situation have no understanding of that. Not worrying is so much easier said than done - everyone says "don't do it" but rarely do people have answers as to how to keep that worry at bay. For me, talking to people who had been through infertility and miscarriage helped, but it has never completely gone away. At 14 weeks, I am still scared. Maybe try finding support through message boards or close friends, people you feel you can confide in when you are feeling afraid (meaning people who will understand, not tell you just to stop worrying). I found some sanity on the boards at fertilityfriend.com although there are many out there.
Have a happy, healthy nine months!
2007-03-27 12:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by aaustin74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt and her husband tried to conceive a child for 4 years and finally did. she was so excited, but she had a hard time with the pregnancy. she was put on bed rest for her pregnancy and had to take medication. but it's different for different people!
first thing i'd like so say (well second) is CONGRATULATIONS!!! =]. However, you are being paranoid. and silly. If the doctors think something is wrong with the baby, he/she will surely let you know! Just focus on staying healthy, STRESS FREE, and get the rest you need and embrace this wonderful gift!!!!
Congratulations again and good luck!!! =]
2007-03-27 18:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kiri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as I know from experience there is nothing you can do to stop a MC so try your best to relax and enjoy all the time you get out of this pregnancy.
Worrying about it is creating tension in you and the baby can feel that, not to mention your other child...so do all you can to relax. If it is meant to happen then it will happen.
Join other pregnant moms who have miscarried and gone on to have multiple pregnancies.
2007-03-27 18:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by ChelYox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was in this situation. My husband and I had a miscarriage, and at the same time my sister-in-law was pregnant...making it ever so hard to cope for the entire 9 months plus. Well, many,many tries later (2 years) I finally conceived another baby. I was thrilled, just as you are. (Major congrats, btw) However, I would have nightmares, and thoughts of something bad happening to our baby. Nothing ever did, and now he is a happy healthy one year old.
I think it is human to have these thoughts. You have tried so hard and for so long for this baby. Its the baby you always wanted! You are just showing motherly insticts to protect him or her. Just relax, which is good for you and baby ( and trust me you need the rest while you can get it) Follow your Dr.'s orders, you know the whole bit I'm sure. You will be fine and so will your precious little one.
2007-03-27 18:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Happy HBAC Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's completely normal to be concerned considering how long it took you to get pregnant. Chances are you will be fine. Try to relax, the added stress isn't good for you. You are not being silly! I had a friend in a similar situation, except it took them 3 years of trying! She just delivered a healthy baby girl last month!
Just take care of yourself, get plenty of rest, drink plenty of water and eat a nutritious diet and I'm sure you'll be losing sleep up all night with a newborn in about 33 weeks!
Good luck!
2007-03-27 18:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by cindya621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem. It took us about as long to concieve our 2nd child as well. I was soooooo happy it finally happened and soooo worried I would lose the baby. But i made it ! Just try not to stress to bad or else you will need prozac like me but i needed it more than just for the worry of miscariage. But all in all you prolly wont miscarry so relax and enjoy the feelings of anticipation of your new bundle.
If you want someone to talk to my SN is beebeemoma2002 on the messenger I'd love to talk to ya. :)
2007-03-27 18:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not silly at all. It is common especially since it took so long to conceive. Worrying about it will only make the possibility of miscarriage worse so try and not worry. Ask you doc when you can have your first ultrasound. Seeing the baby alive and moving/heart beating would probably reassure you and put your mind at ease. I am sure everything will be fine. Good luck!
2007-03-27 18:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by purple_lily76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I hope you're soon able to fully embrace your joy and let go of the worry. Yes, miscarriage happens. But when it does, it is usually a case of the universe being kind rather than allow an ill-formed fetus go through a struggle-filled life. Much more often, though, pregnancy results in a healthy bundle of joy. We can't go through life making ourselves miserable over what might happen. I'm betting you'll soon be raising a happy and much-loved little one. Take good care of yourself and prepare to be blessed.
2007-03-27 18:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by chemmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. Hormones on top of a fear of losing something you love. I get pregnant really really easily and with this pregnancy I had a 'feeling that I would lose the baby' I was so scared... I had a bad feeling. I am now 28 weeks pregnant and that feeling and the fear is gone. I think alot of it is hormones
2007-03-27 18:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooo normal!
Once you get pregnant, you can't help but wonder "am I still pregnant...how about now...how about now...how about now?"
You need a message board so you can talk to women expecting the same month as you so you can talk through out yoru 40 weeks and even share birth stories -check this one out:
http://forums.delphiforums.com/Fall07Babies
PS - You need to yell at that voice in your head to shut up so you can enjoy this pregnancy!
Congratulations!
Congratulations!
2007-03-27 18:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋