2007-03-27 11:06:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Much easier to forgive.The forgetting is really hard.So many little reminders pop up all the time.
2007-03-27 11:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you're forgiving. When some people talk about forgiveness, what they really mean is that they'll let this one slide... but kind of keep it in the back of their minds.
Depending on what you're forgetting, it can be incredibly easy! Where you put the car keys... things you should have picked up at the grocery store but somehow didn't... the punchline to that killer joke you were trying to tell last night... we forget tons of stuff. And it's so easy, we really hardly ever mean to forget whatever it was.
The expression, "forgive and forget," came about to mean that you forgave a mistake that a person made, and you'll just go on as if it never happened in the first place. But I have yet to try to forget something and it actually happened--in fact, I've found the best way to keep a memory close is to try to forget it!
2007-03-27 18:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it is though not "easy" necessarily at all. But the way to go because if you don't forgive the negative feelings you will carry will hurt you first and formost and probably a lot. Also why "forget"? You want to be clear on what happened because this leads to the choices and evaluations you make concerning this person/event. But "not forgetting" doesn't mean to dwell on/obsess on.
2007-03-27 18:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by cats56avatar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither is easy. However, forgiving is something you have to will yourself to do. Forgetting is something you have to condition yourself to do. While you may learn to forgive, depending on how painful, you may never forget. You will have to decide if you want to continue living with whatever caused you pain and if you can push it aside. If you can't, let it go and spend time doing other things while you go through the withdrawal process.
2007-03-27 18:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the beginning of forgetting. If you do not forgive someone you will have that bitterness close to heart but if you do forgive someone that bitterness will turn into a memory that resides closer to the back of your mind.
2007-03-27 18:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's easier to forgive than to forget, just don't be too forgivin as in giving another chance after another. If he/she apologized and asks for your forgiveness, he/she should mean from the heart. Things happen...bottom line is yea if you have it in your heart to forgive, then forgive, just don't be too forgiving. You might find yourself asking why did i forgive him/her or even blaming yourself for being so forgiving.
2007-03-27 18:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by I AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can forgive but they never forget.
2007-03-27 18:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is.. Its better to give the problem, anger or hatred to your higher power.. Because if you hold it.. it can create other problems in your body mind or soul.
And you live in a deeper existance without judgement. Its difficult but gets easier when you see the results.
2007-03-27 18:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is always easier to forgive than forget
forgiveness is an act of acceptance, forgetfullness is an act of old age and disability
although i have found it hard to do either
2007-03-27 18:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap always easier to forgive.
2007-03-27 18:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by clarnely_2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋