I'm really shy around people I don't know so I sometimes pretend to ignore new people. I've tried but seriously can't bring myself to even look at someone I don't know at times. If someone ignored me I would definately think they were a snob. Opinions and ways to stop my little phobia/habit would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-27 11:03:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, you don't sound like a snob, but you must get over your shyness.
Bite the bullet - look them sqare in the eyes and say: "HI!" and just move on. I'll bet you they will respond somehow - at least with a smile. Next time you see that person do it again - it will be easier the 2nd time - and eventually you will get enough of a comfort level to walk up to them and say: "Hi! My name is Bookworm. What's yours?"
Keep doing that with more people and you will soon get over your shyness - they are no longer strangers!
2007-03-27 11:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Arsan Lupin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they might take it as a snob but they don't know the situation. A snob would be a person who just thinks they are better then new people and they ignore them for that reason not because they are shy. You might have social phobia or just really shy, but the two are very different. Try your best just at least say hi once it is over you will be proud of yourself and realize it wasn't so bad. Remember they probably feel the same way. You could smile so they know your not a snob, you don't have to entertain them or put on a show it's just being friendly. If this really starts to become an issue then see a therapist.
2007-03-27 18:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... lol. I've never heard of someone being shy being called a snob. You are not a snob at all. You merely have trouble interacting with others because of your shyness. Thats all. Those who label you a snob don't know you. And they're juding based upon what they see on the outside without first getting to know the you on the inside. Thats people for ya! I have some friends who used to be the same way. They found their own way in becoming comfortable when talking with others. LEt me tell you-it isn't easy, but it is something that can be done through time. You need to develop some more confidence. I know a lot of the time, shy people have low confidence levels. That plays a big factor. You need to know that people will like you for you and you shoudlnt' be afraid to let people know who you are and what your about. i bet your a great person and i bet a lot of ppl would love to know you. you just as they just have to give it a chance. Nothing happens overnight. It'll come in time where you will learn to be comfortalbe within yourself to be able to reach out and start communication more with people without feeling shy or nervous. Its normal tho hun. Don't think somethings wrong with you because there isn't. You are shy. Thats all. :D
And remember-those labels... are just labels. Each can be defyied. You can out-grow your shyness. Again, with time.
Hope I've helped and good luck!
2007-03-27 18:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by tekno_rockstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different levels of sociability depending on different factors, ie how confident you feel at the time, how many people you know in that situation. Not everyone would take offence if you 'ignored' them ie didn't engage in conversation with them as most people have varying degrees of difficulty in social settings anyway, so they could be relieved that you aren't putting them in a difficult position of having to be sociable back.
Maybe remind yourself that you are not alone and most other people are having the same anxieties, even if they don't show it visibly, maybe that will help put your worries into context. Practice is the only real answer for overcoming it though, take each social event as a challenge and set yourself little goals to achieve each time. ie initiate conversation with one new person at the event.
Don't be worrying that you come off as a snob though, most people would be able to tell the difference between someone who is shy and someone who is arrogant so don't add that to your concerns. Good luck!
2007-03-27 18:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in other peopel's eyes it probably seem like you're a snob. But you're just very shy so I my answer is NO, you're not a snob.
Snob tend to think that they're better than anyone else and they hold their heads up high and give that look that say: you're not worthy of me.
You're just shy, nothin to worry about. Just try to say hello to somebody and some will be nice right back but some (snobs) won't ne.=)
2007-03-27 18:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by anaconda_orchid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but they might think you're a snob..... I've been where you are, with the whole shyness thing, I could hardly look into people's eyes..... but I eventually overcame shyness....
It's usually a matter of "how much do I care about what they say back?" The main thing is to not be afraid of their reaction to what you say or do... But not to the level of not caring.... Just be yourself (minus the shyness) and people will love you for it....
2007-03-27 19:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rhea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it's pretty snobby to ignore new people. Haha.
Sometimes it's hard to get over your fears, but sometimes, you have to. You can't live your life ignoring people you don't know or else no one will ever get to know you and you'll be alone for perhaps the rest of your life. Maybe fear of being alone will get you to be more open!
You don't even have to talk to them, but at least look and smile. It doesn't take that much just to give a stranger a smile, you know. Maybe that will make their day and maybe it will make yours, too.
Start small and go big!
2007-03-27 18:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that in college and everyone that I got to know invariably told me they had thought I was a snob too. People often mistake being shy for being snobby especially if you are attractive. Face them and smile. They do not know you are shy unless you tell them. Keep that thought in your head every day. They do not know you are shy. Good luck. @8-)
2007-03-27 18:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eye contact is over-rated these days. However, you want to avoid looking like you're snubbing people. A trick for people who dislike making eye contact is to look at their mouth or some other feature on or around their head. I know you said you avoid looking at them altogether, but that may stem from fearing eye contact. I have had intermittent problems with that myself. I like to make quick eye contact and then nod my head.
2007-03-27 18:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by mrsdagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a snob.
You're the opposite: a nerd.
Social skills aren't innate: they're learnt and habitual.
You simply have to study others who have these skills and do as they do: approach others, say hello, introduce yourself etc.
2007-03-27 18:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋