Why don't Black men and Black women marry each other any more?

Question

I work at a grocery store and I get mad seeing all the Black men with white women and their biracial children and I see most of the Black women alone or with a group of kids. I'm not opposed to Black men dating other women it just makes me mad that some many of them would hurry up and marry a white woman instead of a sista. It makes me mad that so few Black men want to marry these days. This worries me because I'm 16 year old and I'm going to college and after i get out of college and get a nice high paying job I would want my strong Black man by my side.

Answer 1

Due to a lack of examples, most black men don't know how to treat a strong black woman and most black women don't know how to treat a strong black man.

Strong black man+Strong black woman=
Strong black family.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Why don't Black men and Black women marry each other any more?

It all comes down to choices! When I say choices, I mean our society has changed significantly over time, I believe black people are realising they do not have to just marry each other anymore. There are other ethnic groups that find them to be attractive. Thank God black women are finally realising this.

As for as the black women you see with all the kids. The best choice is choosing the right man to lay with and the right contraceptives to use. If the children are by choice, hopefully the man you chose to lay up with was the man you knew would have your back, b 4 and after the kids came!

Answer 4

I think that is one of the craziest and over-done stereotypes I have ever heard of.

Just because a black women is alone with her children doesn't mean there is a black man that left her for a white women. Besides that, why does someone else's choice in significant others anger you or even be your business? The reality in todays world of dating is quit simple, we have never been more accessable to each other as we are right now.

At 16, the last thing in life you should have on your mind is marriage anyway. This is an example of how twisted and judgemental we Americans can be. You should really be focused on education and "your" future. I can see that you are being fed plenty of propaganda about the dating habits of black men. From where I stand on this issue, it cuts both ways. So many black women have gravitated to white men and do you know why? You guys have learned the secrets of white women. White men have money. Black men have more money then ever before, but we are still way behind a white mans cash flow. I know a boat load of sistas that are married to white men and most of them are older white men. I am far above 16 years old and know from real world experience and not the local grocery store.

Speaking for myself, for ever white women I have dated, there has been 15 or more black women ahead of her. My dad always told me, "never let someone else pick your women for you." He also went on to say, "Don't limit yourself or stay one dimensional, you may find you prefer someone elses culture more then they one you've always known." I could care less how angry it makes any women regardless her color. I am not gonna give you the old BS excuse that black women have attitudes either, because in my experience, all women do. I do however know what I like, and today she could be white and tomorrow asian, hispanic, black, etc....

I have a career that affords me the opportunity to travel the world and I take advantage of all it has to offer to include the many variations of women. To be honest, I have the Middle Eastern thing going right not, but the choice is mine to make.

Finally, I hope you always make your own choices in men and if that choice is black man, more power to you, but at least the choice was yours and not some stereotype or false perception.

Answer 5

I am married to a black man, and we are happy together. I have to sadly admit that I can see your point of view, and lot of black women have to same fears of being alone. I would have to advise you to go be the best you can be and the right man will come along. You don't know who that man is or what he will look like, but men are attracted to a women that can bring something to the table (and I have a feeling that you will be okay). Good luck.

Answer 6

I am sooo over you right now but I am really trying to give you the benefit of the doubt because you are 16 years old.


Last night I took the time to answer your question about is it wrong to limit yourself to black guys. And so did a lot of other people. You own mother told you to be an equal opportunity dater!

To give you an actual answer to this absurd question, black men do still marry black women but it is no longer taboo to marry outside of your race. Choices are a beautiful thing.

How about you do you and work on getting through school. Hopefully as you get older you will have a different perspective from actually having a little life experience under your belt. By then, if you still feel the same way, I hope you find what it is you are looking for.

Answer 7

Get over yourself, hon. Let people marry who they want. You have absolutely no say in the matter. You only have to worry about what you want, and stop obsessing over having a strong black man at your side. Get with the times! Modern Americans don't care what race their mate is!

Answer 8

I'm Black, and my wife and I have been happily married for 20 years and counting! She's Black, too! That's who I fell in love with. Her! Not her color! If I had met and felt the same about any other girl, regardless of ethnicity, I guess we would be married for 20 years and counting! My point is, love doesn't come in colors, but roses do! Give someone a rose today!

Answer 9

You shouldn't get mad. There are many reason why these things are happening each person is responsible for their life only. I'm glad you have that goal for yourself. I bet if you met a guy right now that you really liked, you wouldn't get pregnant would you?

Maybe those black men weren't liked by the black women in that area. I'm black I make 60K+ a year, no kids and never been married but I'm short so I get passed over.

Answer 10

Blacks still marrying each other, but we live in America where there are so many different romantic options. I am currently dating a White guy, but that doesn't mean that I have something against the brothas because I don't. I think that you should be more open minded, strong, good men come in all races, don't limit yourself sweety.