Gay couple together 4 years + artificial insemination, keep secret???

Question

My sister and her Japanese girlfriend have been together for over 4 years now. They are going to visit a sperm bank this July. They are not open about their relationship to their co-workers or neighbors (though they suspect something anyway). Being gay is looked down more in Japan than in the US overall, as well as a woman having a child by going to a sperm bank. My sister still wants to feel like she is a part (a mom) to their baby. Any ideas? Right now they are going with: 1. Japanese girl had a boyfriend in a different state 2. Japanese girl went to a sperm bank (still doesn't let my sister be a mom) 3. Just be straight out with it (fearing they could both lose their jobs, one of them doesn't work for an actual company) They ARE going to have a baby, THAT isn't what I am asking. Any help will be appreciated.

Answer 1

That sucks that they just can't be forthright. I always feel bad when I hear about people having to live a lie b/c they feel so much pressure from society.

The thing is, when they eventually present themselves as a family (which they will HAVE to do if the child is raised calling both women mommy), everyone will figure what is going on anyway.

My suggestion is this: when she starts to show and people ask who the dad is, she can say, "It's a really long story and pretty personal, so I'd rather not talk about it now." Then she can look sort of tragic and sad. People can imagine whatever they want then, like a jilted ex-lover or a one night stand.

Whatever the case, they don't need to know all of the details. Reproduction is a private issue for most people, so I don't think too many of their co-workers will press for details.

Wish them luck from me!

Answer 2

Uh yah, anyone might desire to have the right to look after an adolescent in the event that they like to. And if medical doctors can supply fertility drugs to a girl and make her have octuplets, then why cant a gay or lesbian couple undertake? i think of its a super theory. the only situation is which you may desire to be wealthy to undertake and it doesnt merely take money to be a solid discern. So quite some you may fairly a baby advance up as a ward of the state than ever have a kinfolk to look after them? That looks form of selfish to me, and Oli, what precisely constitutes a "throw away baby"? You anyone is all tousled. Deny a baby a loving homestead based on your guy or woman biased, incorrect and IGNORANT perspectives. Do you even understand or care what you're sentencing a baby to stay by using? selfish! And homosexuals at the instant are not perverts or the ethical decay of society merely with the aid of fact the gay and lesbian porno section makes you queezy, you gentle weight. a properly-known gay guy is not greater possibly to harm a youthful boy than a heterosexual guy is to harm a youthful woman, yet we dont save fathers from their daughters will we?