Cousin's Husband Asks Me To Tell Him Truth, DO I OR DO I LIE??

Question

I asked a similar question before,many said tell the truth bc if something like this was being kept from me, wouldn't you want to know?? Well something similar happened and I do know how it feels to like someone and have that person be with someone else. Ya it was cheating in a way. So now was that a lesson for me that bc I know it hurts, if the husband asked me I should have told him his wife and best friend are sleeping together. He is not aware of anything going on, poor fellow. IF he did, he would not have his best friend staying in his store and still working there with his wife. What is this world coming to, full of betrayal and liars?? SO I ask you now, bc I went through a similar thing in a way but not quite as bad as this, do I tell him? He did ask me to tell him but all I could say is ask your wife. I do feel like telling him and my other relatives who will be in contact with those people.This is tough. Please help me decide. I would never lie or cover up as I hate liars

Answer 1

How can you say you wouldn't lie or cover up? The guy asked you straight out- and you wimped out, and didn't tell him. That IS covering up. Cheaters count on others to help them cheat, without getting caught. You say he's a "poor fellow". He IS because those who do know his wife is a scummy cheater, are keeping her sluttish behavior secret. Do the right thing. Call the guy, and tell him his wife IS cheating. Then, you won't be passively helping her cheat.

Answer 2

You answered your own question darlin. What you need to do is figure out where you stand in this. If it isn't your business, don't get involved, but we can't always help that. If you truely hate liars, and you believe they should be punished, then you need to do what YOU believe and let the TRUTH be known. If you tell your cousins husband that she has NOT cheated, then YOU will be the liar. Family or not, if your cousin gets mad with you, thats her problem. You would have done the right thing, and thats what you believe in. Then she can be without a cousin and husband. Unfaithful people deserve that.



So in conclusion. IF YOU,(WHO HATES LIARS) IS ASKED, DO NOT LIE.

Answer 3

Do you KNOW for a fact that she is cheating or do you just suspect it ?
Is it really any of your business ?

Telling him you cant answer and he needs to speak with his wife should be enough unless he doesnt want to know.

You coud send him an anonymous note , telling him everything , but you had better be right.

Or you tell HER that her husband is asking questions about her and the guy and if anything IS going on she had better be prepared to face her husband .

Or you tell the GUY that the husband suspects someone is cheating with his wife and hes looking for the guy .

Answer 4

I feel that you should leave this to both te husband and wife to sort it out. I can imagine if the wife finds out it came from you, you may be courting troubles. Sad though we may feel but it's best to leave the husband and wife to sort out their differences or issues. This has nothing to do with being a liar or not speaking the truth. You are a third party and you may not have the full story.

Answer 5

I went though something like that too. But I knew but know one believed me. My husband was cheating with his best friend girlfriend. And when I told my husband best friend he told me I was jealous and that am making things up, and of course my own husband said I was jealous of his best friend girlfriend and the girlfriend was going a long with my husband and her boyfriend which was my husband best friend. No one believed me, not even his family. (my husband family) they said he would never do that to his best Friend or me. I know what I knew. But anyhow everyone for a long time was against me and all a long I new the truth. A year letter my husband admitting to me that he was having affair with her and I told his best friend, and it took months later for my husband to admit to his best friend the truth. So whet ever you decide to do keep your guards up because you might be the one everyone turns on at first. Even the husband the one whos getting cheating on, he can turn on you too. It happen to me. But during that time I just went on about my business and I would see my husband the best friend and his girlfriend drive a way when they (the best friend and his girlfriend) come pick up my husband to go out or see my husband go to there house etc... And all a long this b i c t h was sleeping with my husband, can you imagine that. And all a long I knew. But know one was telling the truth, and for a hole year I had to suck it up, until the Truth came out. And after all that my husband friend the one who was saying I was just jealous in all that came back to me and apology's he said I was right and he was sorry, and of course he had a lot of questions for me. I told him the truth. So maybe you owe that man the truth and just be prepared things can turn ugly but you know what your doing the right thing. Some people might turn on you and some might not. Know exactly what your going to say and you must find the right time to tell him. I say go for it.

Answer 6

I'm all about staying out of people's business. But he asked you a direct question that was very specific. I don't like side stepping questions, it is like lying by omission. You should have told him. The truth, not what you think is happening, the truth. IE - "I saw Bob and Sara sharing intimate kisses on the balcony last Friday."

Answer 7

He knows why would he ask you if he already suspect something is going on with his wife. You need to walk away from it because you are going to be the fall guy as they say. Husband/wife always know went something is not right in a marrieage the signs are there and he knows. So for your sake you just back away and let him find out for himself. Because he or she will blame you and so will your family for butting in.

Answer 8

I would guess that he has to have a clue or he wouldn't ask. . .but I think it is best to stay out of it, trying to do the right thing can take a aweful turn. . .I know it's hard because I have been in your shoes, but it will all come to light. Maybe you should tell him that if he has an intuition then he should follow his gut and find out. Best of luck.

Answer 9

You did right by telling him to ask his wife. You should try to stay out of it as much as possible so you are not caught in the middle.
His wife needs to be the one that tells him.

Answer 10

Tell him the truth. It may hurt now but not near as painful as finding out your were lied to and even possibly the laughing stock around your friends.