I am now in my 40's,my husband is in his 50's and we simply do not want,have never wanted to have children.Today a women actually asked me if we were trying,and maybe I should have invitro!When I told her we have no desire for kids she threw her head back and seemed in pain.When will this stop?
2007-03-27 10:24:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We have been married for 17 years,together for 25.We certainly know each other and have a great relationship.
2007-03-27 10:25:53 · update #1
I am 31 and I feel the same way. Its not that I don't like children, I just think that they are a big responsibility, and ones whole life has to change in order to have them. They take every minute of your time, and your whole life has to revolve around them. I know they are rewarding, but Im not willing to change my whole life in order to have those so called "rewarding" moments.
2007-03-27 10:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who cares that they don't understand or even why. You are the making the decision about your life. You are the more responsible one for not bringing into this world another human that will change your life forever. This may sound selfish to some but so what. I too choose not to have kids. I have 25 nieces and nephews, 15 grand nieces and nephews and if I wanted kids around all I would have to do is call one fo my siblings and they would be happy to part with theirs for a while. I think some people feel that since "God" said be fruitful and multiply, they think that they are required to do so. What they don't realize if what followed that statement....."Fill the earth". Get a grip people...the earth is full. We can not feed those who are here and we want to add to that? go figure....
2007-03-27 17:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People tell me...I'm too young and that I will change my mind when I mature and meet the right person.
I think it takes maturity to acknowledge that every past partner was the 'right' person for me--at that time. I never had the slightest inkling to be a mother; hence, it is highly unlikely that I'd be swayed by an external influence.
I'm too selfish...I can't be tied down. I want to run, to travel, to be free! Having children would rob me of that. It just isn't something for me...
Luckily, you and I are aware of this.
2007-03-27 17:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by LUCKY3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being able to maintain a stable relationship for so long. People are so darn nosey. It was none of that lady's business. The next time someone asks you, simply say that you do not care to discuss it and leave it at that. If they cannot deal with your answer, it is their problem not yours.
2007-03-27 18:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are in default judgmental, don't care or give their opinion any thought, i am sure this is what you have been doing for the past 25 years and you have to keep on doing it..
this is a pure personal need and since you and your husband are in the same wave length on this subject then it's no bodies business..
2007-03-27 17:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jumana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just seems to go against human nature to not want children. My one wish since I can remember was to be a mom and I have a very hard time understanding someone not wanting a child. Its like when someone says they don't like chocolate. It just doesn't compute my brain can't wrap around the idea. But not everyone has to have children and apparently not everyone wants children. Just because people like me don't understand you doesn't mean your wrong or that we think ill of you. We just don't understand.
2007-03-27 17:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your time for children have come and past anyways, what does it matter now. if you could somehow be fertilized, you probably couldn't carry a child and if you did, it would have down syndrome. I guess I wander why people don't want to leave a little piece of themself to live on long after they are dead. kids can wreck your life but, what else are you here for? to have fun and be happy, no , you are here for procreation. if everyone felt the same about children, someone wouldn't have had your little husband for you to make your life with. really most of us don't care what you do with your life. god didn't bless you with an accident so maybe you truly wouldn't be fit as parents.
2007-03-27 17:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I grew up not wanting to have children but now I have 2 and I would not trade them for anything - they are the best thing to happen to me. Everyone is different and we need to respect each other's choices. God Bless!!
2007-03-27 17:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
congradulations on your happy life together. I suppose so many people consider that when people marry, the natural progression is to have children. What was the reason for you not wanting to have children. I would like to know why?
2007-03-27 17:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋