my 10 1/2 month old daughter can be perfectly content, eating, playing, etc., but as soon as I walk out of sight she begins to scream until I come back and pick her up. What can I do to calm her fears? I can't even take a shower without her. Please help.
2007-03-27 09:51:32 · 7 answers · asked by danigirl25 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i have tried talking to her from the other room, and she doesn't use a binky.
2007-03-27 10:02:18 · update #1
I am going through the same thing! Let me know if you learn anything that works well!
2007-03-27 09:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by RN_and_mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety is totally normal at this age. Wow, you are totally describing my daughter at 10 1/2 months. We used to have this problem with her, especially at night time. It was the hardest thing at first, but we had to let her cry it out a couple times at night. At first it seemed like an infinity and hurt us, but after the next day the time of crying decreased. Eventually she didn't cry at all. Also, just this last Sunday, I dropped my daughter off at daycare and she clung to me so tight I almost cried to leave, but she cried only for a few seconds until she was distracted with something else. Like I said, it was hard to leave her be for a few seconds at first to do things like go to the bathroom but now it's ok. Just make sure that there is nothing in her reach and that nothing is in her vicinity that can hurt her and leave her for whatever you need to do around the house for short periods. Tell her it's ok and that you'll be right back. Give her something to distract her while you go in the next room. We have some First Years baby gates that have a step pedal that opens the gate. This is important, especially when you have stairs in the house. The important thing is to remember that your child, unless disabled will eventually have to learn to do things alone and by herself. You can't be there 24/7. She needs to learn to play by herself and entertain herself. She'll learn after awhile. I'm not saying leave her for long but short periods. A few seconds at first and then a few minutes, eventually you might be able to vacuum or sweep or cook a meal, checking on her periodically. My daughter is now 15 months and she is pretty much independent now, just dropping her off at the daycare is hard.
2007-03-27 10:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seperation anexity its a mildstone and it will pass. When you shower do it when she naps. I went through this when my son was 8 months old. He's now 10 months old and if I am gone longer then he thinks I need to be he's either right behind me or screaming for me.
2007-03-27 10:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. give her a binky, walk out of a room then walk back in the room wait 5 mins before going back in
2007-03-27 10:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by jello! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her from the other room so she can hear you. practice leaving and coming back in.
2007-03-27 09:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by lukkyB22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 15mon old son is doing this. Really frustrating!
2007-03-27 12:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by she_ferr30 w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self soothing also works, although some parents argue that its mean, it teaches your children to be self reliant later in life.
2007-03-27 10:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jonny Mick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋