Should you tell your parents your sexuality preference?

Question

Okay,
so it turns out that I am gay after being in denial for two years. I am just so afraid to tell my parents because they are very religous and against homosexuality. However, my friends are excited for me so it's like i can be me at school and with friends but not at home and at church. I need some help here?

Answer 1

As a mother, I prefer honesty and openness. Yes I do feel that you should tell your parents. They will probably be shocked, they may rant and rave in their confusion. But it is very unlikely that they will stop loving you.

A dear friend of mine is a lesbian, and she hid that fact from her parents (her father is a church minister) for many years. When she eventually told her parents, they were more hurt over the fact that she had been afraid to tell them, than over her sexual preferences.

No matter how your parents react, stand tall and be proud of the person that you are.

Look after yourself and be safe

Sandy
http://www.moms-home-safety.com

Answer 2

Ok, If you are under 18 and still living at home and you think they are going to freak the hell out, perhaps even kicking you out or something, I would hold off until you graduate... I am all for being honest but I think you need to be realistic too. If they are going to make your life a living hell because of your sexual preference, then wait until you are able to walk away from the situation, if that is a possibility.

I hope very much that you are wrong about them and they embrace you regardless of your sexual orientation :-)

Answer 3

that is not a question of suited or incorrect; averages don't be conscious to persons and if he says he's acquainted with he's gay then he probable is. yet anyone could make a mistake and it particularly is attainable to alter (yet it particularly is often any incorrect way around - somebody who grew up believing he replaced into rapidly abruptly realises/admits he's involved in different adult males). So in spite of the shown fact that effective he's you could not be effective till you have considered how he's over a longish era. there is not any doubt that babies properly under the age of puberty each each now and then recognize which intercourse they are involved in. I even have accepted some. yet there are others, like me, who did not recognize they have been gay till 18 or 19. And greater or much less anyone is pronounced to anticipate to be rapidly, are not they? So in the event that they say they recognize they are not it particularly is particularly possibly they might see/sense some thing in themselves it particularly is diverse.

Answer 4

If you are still living at home, and think they may have an extreme reaction to it-I'd say keep it to yourself for the time being. The last thing you would want is to have them react out of anger or fear and then do something drastic (like kick you out.) If you are able to stand on your own two feet or are prepared to do so, if need be, then tell them. Hopefully they will be able to see past all of their prejudices and accept you as you are.

Look to PFLAG for help, and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Do you feel like you have that relationship with your parents to talk to them and let them know about this situation? Do you feel as if they may already know and have seen signs and maybe just haven't said anything to you? When you feel comfortable with "coming out" and talkin' with them, is when it should be told...just drop lil' hints here and there....then they might bring it to you.

Answer 6

Who you have sex with is really your own personal business! I have NEVER once told my mother about who I was having sex with. I still haven't told her that I'm "in a relationship" with my husband of almost three years. PERSONAL SPACE!!
I guess if you feel as though you must...approach it with humor "hey mom, pray for me...I'm gay"!

Answer 7

tell your parents ok