I'm 27 years old and my first baby is due in about two weeks. For the last two weeks or so, my husband has been freaking out over the baby coming. It started when all the baby furniture, car seat, toys ect were delivered to the house. I guess it was a wake up call that the baby was indeed coming very soon. Since then he hasn't been sleeping, has trouble eating and is constantly panicing about my health. I can't even talk about the baby without him starting to sweat and get sick. He's getting more nervous by the day. Has this happened to anybody's husband or does anyone have any idea's on how to help him? I'm getting really worried.
2007-03-27 09:41:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is funny you mention this. I am due April 9th so sounds like we are pretty close.
My b/f has been so calm and collected through this whole pregnant, until today. Today he walked up to me and said are you scared sh*tless about this pregnancy too. I just laughed and said yes. It is perfectly normal, because a baby is such an overwhelming responsibility. I think with men sometimes it is worse because they have this need to take care of their family, to be the best provider, and an attentive father. That is a lot to handle.
What I suggest is sharing your worries with him and let him voice his to you without making him feel silly. Also, my b/f has been working very hard on our house so I have been doing a few little things for him, like cooking special dinners, rubbing his back for a change, running him a bath and so forth. He has been taking great care of me and has probably been a little neglected.
Good luck with your new arrival and hopefully for both of us it is soon.
2007-03-27 09:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This actually happens more than you would think. Men start worrying that something is going to happen to their woman and they start to panic. They don't know the baby, they know you and if something happens and he's left alone with the baby, then I'm sure he has reason to panic. However, reassure him that you are fine, that the baby is fine, and that everything will be okay. The majority of the women in the USA that have successful births is far greater than the number of women who don't. Remind him that you love him and you'll get through it together. Then slip him a sleeping pill, some vitamins, and a valium and everything will be okay (I'm just kidding about this part). Congrats and good luck in the future.
2007-03-27 16:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by mrsdokter 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
AWWW sounds to me like you have a great husband!! Its not abnormal for men to get frantic right before the baby comes...my hubby did too!! Good news after the baby is born and the baby being there is a normal thing he will calm down. Good Luck with your new baby!!
2007-03-27 16:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by got all I need 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a normal reaction, not all men who are expecting a child, are totally ready mentally. All in all he will love the child. He's just a little nervous, this being his fist child just like you might be. Everyone has different reactions. Talk to him and let him know that everything will be fine and that you are just as nervous as he. Talk to him and see where his mind is. He loves you and its good he is so caring. good luck, name the baby shannel if its a girl :)
2007-03-27 16:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reassure him everything is fine. Tell him to take a deep breath and relax because it would help you feel relax as well. Heaven forbids he freaks out when you go into labor. Lol...
2007-03-27 16:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by M. Ly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful he is instead of acting like he doesnt care like alot of men do....... He will settle down. Hes just scared, I think its very very wonderful that he loves you that much........... He just loves you hun..... Congrats......... He will be a wonderful father I just know it.
Mine was a jackass......... In labor he was late getting there....... i drove myself, and then he said after being there 5 mins... for god sakes hurry I have things to do......
2007-03-27 16:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he will be fine.
i don't think there is much you can do for him except be as supportive as possible.
oh, and make sure he is sitting down before you tell him you're in labor! ;)
2007-03-27 16:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋