Ok... Am I letting this get to me?? My boyfriend and I have not had sex in 2 mons. We both had children (2 on each side) .. we dont live together , and we always have the kids around most of the time. We get a long great, however we are so busy that we hardly get to see each other!! But its starting to bother me some. I have joked around about it.. and he says I know.. its been a long time.. I will fix that problem. BUT he has a bad back and has been in a lot of pain, and I understand that. Our sex life has always been great. What do you guys think. We are talking grown adults here. lol
2007-03-27 09:40:58 · 11 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes he is stressed because of child support and stuff going on..
2007-03-27 09:50:21 · update #1
Two months may seem like a long time, but it isn't all that long (especially when dealing with a back problem and other stress factors). Maybe you two should plan an "adults weekend" or an overnight when someone else can watch the kids (maybe they can do a sleepover, or visit grandma or something). Then, when away from the kids and other stress factors you can just be "you two"..... and let what happens happen.
2007-03-27 10:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a date night, no kids. I was in a car accident and got whiplash and back injuries. The first month sex was impossible, after that I tolerated the pain. One can only go so long.
As long as you are careful and don't try to be a acrobat, it will be fine.
2007-03-27 16:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe there is some stress involved. Talk with him about it. Or meet up with him one night, with no kids and turn up the sex appeal! I'm sure he will come into it!!!
2007-03-27 16:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley_Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a babysitter, and a nice boyfriend massage for the aching back. That should do the trick.
2007-03-27 16:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be assertive and take control of the situation. Why can't he just lay on his back and have you go for a ride?
2007-03-27 16:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break.......IF he truly has a bad back....chillout.......give him a massage instead.....
you both have stress.....and sex is just a small part of your relationship....
unless you have GOOD reason to think he is cheating.......dont worry.
2007-03-27 17:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang I hate that...but have been there....there have been times in my marriage that we have actually gone up to 3 months..yes 3 (not good!!). but if he is physically not able thats a different issue...maybe try oral stimulation or maybe even masturbation together ....maybe just be creative
2007-03-27 16:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mike N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I couldn't go 2 months...you need to talk to him seriously thats a long time.
2007-03-27 17:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you dress up in some lingerie and surprise him some evening when the kids are gone? it might be time to take matters in to your own hands.
2007-03-27 16:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mike S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd hate it too. maybe you should think about your relationship with this person more carefully. when i'm in love, i turn into a tigress, :)
2007-03-27 16:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋