How do you feel about abortion??

Question

I am 17 and 7 weeks pregnant, I'm scared to keep the baby because I know that it will change my life greatly, and maybe not for the better. I am a full time student in college and I also work. I do love the father and we could make it together, but we will be squeaking by. I already know what I'm going to do, but what do you think I should do?

For everyone who is saying what is the point in me asking the question because I have already made up my mind:
#1 if you don't like the question I ask don't answer it
#2 I would like to know what people's opinions are in my particular case

And also- 7weeks is really not a long time that I have been pregnant, I just found out for sure last Saturday.

Answer 1

There are tons of reasons not to have a baby at 17. Not just becasue your 17 but you are young and do not have alot of experience in life that you are going to want to have and need in a few years. THe child always ends up paying for that. I am 30 I am having my 1st and its hard now. Overall its a personal choice. It has nothing to do with religion or blah blah blah. Its all about what is right for you now and what is right for that yolk sak(cause thats all it is). You are only 6 weeks. SO what ever you decised, stick with it and be sure of it. Dont regret or second guess yourself. Dont dwell on it. Also take into consideration what it will do to you and your man. If you go through with it you moght not find it so easy to love him anymore. MAke sure that a chance you are willing to take!!

Answer 2

Yes, a baby will change your life greatly, whether you keep it or not. The choice is yours and the fathers. My belief is that its your choice to keep it or not, however, you are not convincing me that you should abort the baby. You are 7 weeks, and if you were really not sure, you would have aborted it a few weeks ago.
There are three choices you have: One, abort it, and then you will spend the rest of your life wondering what it was, what it would look like and how your life would be if you had it. Two, you could have it and keep it, this would really affect you, since you would have to care for a child, and your youth would be pretty much over. Three, have it and give it up for adoption. You would know what the baby was, and would know that it is in good health and that it will be with a family who will want and love it, not saying you won't love it.
Its not going to be an easy decision. If you are real confused, talk to your parents, his parents and maybe a counsellor before you make up your mind 100%. Remember, if you choose to abort, there is no undoing it.

Answer 3

Honey, all I can tell you is my opinion. 17 is really young to have a baby. I would not have an abortion if it were me, but you are a totally different person in totally different circumstances, and I feel that each woman should be able to make that decision for herself. Take into consideration that you are never financially ready for little ones. If you try hard enough, there's always a way to support yourself. I have a four year old and I'm working full time and going to college. I find plenty of time to spend with my son even though money is really tight. I realize that not everyone can do this, though, so consider all of your options before making a final decision.

Answer 4

I'm 24 years old and 24 weeks pregnant. I was not ready to get pregnant but it happened. The doctors told me i could not have kids. And with my first husband we tried and nothing. Now with my fiance somehow i got pregnant. I didn't want to abort becasue the baby was made out of love. No we are squeezing by but after i saw my babies heart beat on the screen i melted and i was 11 weeks. I found out at 7 weeks that i was pregnant. Now that i'm 24 weeks and have seen my baby on screen with his thumb in his mouth, i cannot wait to have him. Even though we really weren't looking forward to becoming parents right now, we decided together that we should keep the little guy just because god gave me one when they said i couldn't. But its a decision you and the father have to make. Even if he doesn't want it but you do then keep it. After is all said and done, you won't regret having the little devil. Life is full of surprises.

Answer 5

I think abortion is always wrong. If you can't, or don't want to take care of a baby, you can always, always, choose adoption. I made that choice when I was 19. I knew I wasn't in a position to take care of a baby, but I would never kill someone. I have since gone to college, gotten married, and have a daughter. I know my life and my first baby's life have both been so much better because of my choice and I've never looked back. I know some people think that if you've been raped, it's okay to get an abortion, but no one should pay for someone else's mistakes. I understand if you choose not to keep your baby, but please let someone raise it who wants nothing more than a baby to love. If you keep your baby, good luck, and work hard, both at school and at your job.

Answer 6

I DO NOT agree with abortion at all!! If you have sex then you know that there is that chace of getting pregnant!! You shouldn't be able to abort a baby....exspecially when you are sexually active and know better!! I am 24 yrs old and 19 weeks pregant...Yeah Beleive me I was shocked and scared and cried for a week BUT never once did I think about aborting it!! If I was with a guy that was gonna make me do it I would leave him..simple as that!!! Yeah It is your choice but there are people out there that can't have babies and would love to have one!! So do adoption. I would never be able to live with myself if I was to have gotten an abortion!!!!

Answer 7

Consider Infant of Prague-best of both worlds. No guilt about not knowing your child, yet, you don't have to raise the child, but you are involved in childs life to the degree you wish. You get to choose the 'parents'. I know a doc at work, and he and his wife adopted a baby from a young couple similar to your situation. It has worked out very well. The kid grew up knowing how many people love him. He knows he has 2 sets of parents, and boy does he have alot of people to love him. It is a new concept for some, but I think it takes time to consider this. I know this is a hard time for you, Think of what is best for the child, not just your feelings, or your boyfriends feelings.

Answer 8

Abortion at any stage of pregnancy is wrong. I can understand being 17 you would be scared. One suggestion- how about adoption- if my birth mom had not carried me to term I would not be here to write you. I have 2 adopted kids as well. Not only does abortion take the life of a child- by the way, your baby's heart is beating since 3 weeks after conception- and brain waves are developing etc etc etc. Also there are dangers to you as well- torn uterus, excessive bleeding, pain, damage to other organs , miscarriages later, also fertility problems, etc. There are many emotional risks as well. I counsel women who are considering abortion or have had them, so I am close to this- please email if you can,

Answer 9

I think that this is a tough question.

While abortion is great for victims of rape and sexual abuse who did nothing to deserve a child. I think it also takes away a consequence of pre-marital sex, which I believe is not the way to go. Just like birth control pills. Their great for married couples who CHOOSE not to have children, or people who use them for other medical reasons, but they still take away the consequences that SHOULD come with it.

But I do not believe that someone who gets an abortion is a bad person or making the wrong decision. I don't like the idea of killing an unborn baby, but they are still unborn and they will be going to a better place anyways. I'm not sure its the best decision out there (although there aren't much better choices out there either. Orphanges are too full) but I do not think its a bad or wrong choice. I think its an avoidable one.

Answer 10

i think you should give the baby, yes it will change your life but it may be for the better.
I say everything happens and if you weren't supposed to have that baby your not going to have that baby... but if you do decide to keep the baby just hang in there.. it won't be easy but you can do it!!

But utimately the decision is up to you and the father make whatever you'all decide be sure you can live with it and you dont have any doubts!!

Good luck!!!