My husband and I are moving. The place we were going to take was not ready and we r staying with my father in law for 9 days. I have cleaned made lunch for him & hubby to take to work, food shoped, as well as make dinner every night. My father in law is a misirable man. He complains from the minute he awakes until he goes to bed. Also looks to start a fight between me and my husband. The problem is I can not stand living with him. He smells and is discusting + cheap. (if he runs to get coffe he don't ask if anyone else wants any but if you go you need to bring him one) My husband and I will be looking for a house to buy soon. His father wants to live with us. I told my husband no way this was an eye opener. I think we should not say anything and when we move just not ask him to come. He is not ill nor needs to live with anyone. He wanted to move in not to be alone and have something to complain about. My husband feels guilty since we stayed for 9 days.
2007-03-27 09:03:21 · 7 answers · asked by Kat G 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Staying with someone for 9 days, does NOT mean that you have put a roof over this guy's head for the rest of his life. If he's in good health then I would insist that he not move in with you. 9 days is not a lifetime and I think inviting him out for dinner one night ought to considered payment in full for letting you stay, especially since it sounds like you were the maid for the entire 9 days.
Its was 9 days, NOT 9 months, or 9 years...I see no obligation there and I would stick to my guns if I were you...
2007-03-27 09:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, that is entirely up to you. Having him come live with you would be a new life, with little boundaries between you both and your father in law. It's a big decision and no one on here can really tell you what to do.
It depends if you want to deal with the consequences or not. Living with a grouchy person may not be easy. It sounds like he's a really hard person to get along with.
Me personally, I would probably let him. Not because of feeling guilty or because you need to do something in return for him allowing you to stay there, but because love is not always easy, it is a choice.
Even in marriage it may be hard, but love always comes down to a choice. A choice that can only be made by being selfless sometimes. It's not easy, but that's no love. Love is never easy. If it is, how deep is it really?
So, it's really up to you. It won't be easy if he lives with you, but it's your choice.
2007-03-27 16:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by crimsnclover 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, get ready!!! NO WAY! Leave in the middle of the night if you need to. DO NOT TAKE HIM WITH YOU. It would be a huge strain on you and your husbands relationship. Vey bad!! He'll just have to understand. Plus one man is difficult enough to take care of. Let alone two that were cut from the same cloth. I beg you to take my advice. You will be much happier. Good Luck!
2007-03-27 16:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Alisha C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could do several things, but you have to make them seem like your husband's idea! I would start now dropping hints to dad-in-law! Like, every time he complains, say something like "it must be a real inconvenience for you to have us here, I bet you;ll be glad when we can move" and keep smiling!! As far as cooking, I would pick out this LEAST favorite dish and fix it four times a week, and just tell him you didn't cook for him because you knew he didn't like what you were cooking. In between being catty...kill him with kindness! Yeah, very passive-agressive, I know!
2007-03-27 16:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen very carefully.............. But promise u wont mind????
I understand he smells,he is discusting,he is cheap!! But dear he is old also? How many yrs he is going to live?? If it was ur own father?? Or tomarrow suppose ur own child leave u like this? D fault is not urs! V human beings became sellfish ,V want ,what ever v need @ any cost!
Dont do it please!
2007-03-27 16:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say no offense to you but the poor old miserable bastard
2007-03-27 16:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT allow him to live with you..
2007-03-27 16:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋