2007-03-27 09:02:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a straight female and if my husband told me he was gay, after the shock and the pain of feeling I was betrayed, I guess I would stand by him with a decision, such as does he want to have a sex change or does he want to have a gay relationship. Regardless chances are we would divorce but I would remain friends with him. Fact is if your friend outside of marriage said they were gay would you never speak to them again for holding that secret? You husband is suppose to be your best friend, so I would say don't have sex with him because of higher risks of STD, but let him live his life happily and you beside him "as his friend".
2007-03-27 09:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am sorry that this is happening to you. This has got the worst thing that could ever happen. You have to remember though that this has nothing to do with you are a good person and have done nothing wrong, it also does not mean that he does not love you he just does not love you in a sexual way. I also would not consider Violence like some others have advised. If your husband is gay he is gay because he was born that way. He should have never lied to you about this but our society clings to these homosexuality is wrong myths. This can force some people to do and say things that are wrong. I hope this helps you some and I will pray for you and your husband. May god bless you both
2007-03-27 16:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by JONNY J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was a woman and I found out my husband was gay I would be devastated. and probably need plenty of therapy and wonder how I didn't see it from the begining.
2007-03-27 16:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by dj_ar_bis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, is he Gay, or Bi?
If he is Bi, and he still loved you, then you
should just talk to him about it.
But if he is 100% Gay, then that's a whole
other story. First, if he doesn't really love you,
then divorce him. But if you have kids, then don't
go so fast with the process. It all really depends
on the situation.
I'm sorry about this.. have you ever seen "Brokeback
Mountain?" Reminds me a little of a situation in that
movie.
2007-03-27 16:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mɑrisɑ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off if this happening to you I am really sorry. It is a hurtful thing and I am sure you have racing thoughts and don't know what to think. At the same times I am sure it answers a lot of questions about many things you have been wondering. Be glad you know. Now you concentrate on what you really want.
2007-03-27 16:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably tell him that I wish he would have told me sooner, but glad he finally came to terms with who he is rather than living a lie and being unhappy. I would be supportive of him and always be his friend. I would also offer to get a quick and easy divorce, so that both of us could move on with our lives and be with who we were meant to be with.
2007-03-27 16:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by OranjTulip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. I would freak out. I would go through all of the stages of loss, denial, fear, anger, but then acceptance. I know as much as I love him and our life together, we can both go on and grow. But first I would probably beat him upside the head. Then I would be mature.
2007-03-27 16:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tara P 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is there a difference between GAY and gay?
2007-03-27 16:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta Shelton. Pity my husband 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Since I am a man, I suspect that my husband already IS gay! OK, well I do MORE than suspect that!
2007-03-27 16:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
be upset, maybe curse a little extra for a couple days, then move on and find somebody straight
2007-03-27 16:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Luna 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋