ok i have adopted a baby and she will be 3 in a few months and now her birth mother is pregnat again and the reason why i adopted the baby was because the mom gave her to me cause she couldnt handle her and take care of her and she is still in the same postition now that she was in then so i guess my question is how can i ask her if she will let me adopt this baby to or if she is going to be able to take care of her. but i want to ask her without any hurt feelings
2007-03-27 09:00:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can't ask. That woudl be incredibly rude and tacky. 3 years is a lot of time to go by. The mother may be more ready (emotionally) to take care of a child now. It's not your place to decide that for her.
2007-03-27 09:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am adopted and my 2 children are adopted. My son's mom had 2 children after we adopted him, so I can relate. It seems like you have a close relationship with your baby's birth mom. If you do , I would think that she would think of you if she could not raise this child, however, she may be waiting to see if you would ask her. IF you have a close relationship with her I am sure she would understand.
2007-03-27 21:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask her, but just let her know you'll be there for support. If she decides she can't handle this baby, she knows where she can find someone who will take care of him/her. You've taken care of the first one!
2007-03-27 16:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by mom-of-4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try talking to her. Ask her if she is doing better now. and if things are still hard like they were before. Let her know if she needs you for anything you are there and would be willing to help out in any way possible! Or just be honest with her
2007-03-27 16:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it sounds horrible, but if i were you and you really wanted a sibling for your child ( a biological one at that) I would talk to her. She already knows and trusts you obbviously. Just tell her nicely that you dont know her situation this time but that you would be willing to step in if she cant handle it. Goodluck, its worth a shot if you really feel strongly about this and if you are the best chance that that child will have.
2007-03-27 16:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bored 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋