how long is this going to take? I have to have sex but I'm still legally married so I don't want to even think about it with another man, but I'm going crazy! Should I call my soon to be ex up and see if he wants to...well you know? What do you think? I know it sounds aweful but my goodness...
2007-03-27 08:51:04 · 11 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 27 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol ~ um....been there, done that. I was going out of my mind.....so I approached him for pure sex and we did a couple of times (this was a couple months after we separated). The problem was he interpreted this as trying to reconcile and started hounding me about 'working on myself' so we could get back together....so I had to cut it off. (DAMMIT!! such good sex......anway)
So here is what I think.....you are separated and going thru a divorce so it's not as if you are cheating if the divorce isn't final yet....at least, not in my book. So for lack of a better expression, try to find a friend with benefits situation......
I am alot like Elaine from Seinfeld....no sex and I start losing the ability to string words together...do simple math problems...chew gum & walk :-)
2007-03-27 09:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately do NOT call up your ex, the last thing you want to do is to start something with him again. If you have been separated from your husband for awhile and the divorce papers are in the works, then you are legally separated and there is nothing wrong with you dating other men. It cannot be used against you. If you want to wait until the divorce is final before you find another man, then I suggest you take matters into your own hands, get yourself a toy and pleasure yourself, use your imagination.
2007-03-27 08:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These answers should be interesting!
I wouldn't call your ex, he will only think you want to stay married to him and then the divorce will take longer!! Besides that, if you could still have sex with him, why are you getting a divorce???
Don't you have any close friends that can take care of you????? Male, of course!
2007-03-27 08:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea. I am recently divorced and yes it can be agony. it takes a long time and can drive you nuts. but usually in a divorce one person still wants to be married and if call your ex for a hook up he may misunderstand what is really going on. if you cant even imagine it with another man than your really not ready to either and will regret it immediately after you do.
2007-03-27 09:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by what to do 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can control yourself, don't you? I don't see what the problem is with dating while the paperwork finishes - It's sure better than sleeping with your ex! I dated while the paperwork wound through the court system because it took a year and we were so emotionally and physically separated that that's all it was - Just the final seal. You can go without sex for a while. It won't kill you! If it's just the physical for you, get a vibrator or something!
2007-03-27 09:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your ex - it will just be painful and prolong things. Self serve with a toy if you have to but give yourself some time to heal and grow, at least 6 months. An uncontested divorce in California takes a minimum of 6 months.
2007-03-27 08:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by vallmoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy yourself a toy. That should hold you over until the divorce is final.
Stay away from the ex and any other man out there until the divorce is final!
2007-03-27 08:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your getting a divorce I would recommend that sex with him is out of the question, unless you want to see if the marriage can still have fire. If anything get some "toys" to help get over the sex crave.
2007-03-27 08:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by wyattj23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgo the soon to be ex option and look at other possiblities. Without getting too graphic, I am sure you can figure them out.
2007-03-27 09:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. But you can come over and visit me, as I too am going thru a divorce and going "crazy"..............
2007-03-27 09:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by Bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋