Teens & Birth Control?

Question

I just replied to a question about a person who's 15y/o daughter asked her for the pill & if she should get it for her. I was very surprised about some responses where people said no. I was wondering why they would say that? In my opinion, if a teen is asking for the means to protect themselves, why should we refuse? There are so many teens having babies out there, and people complain about them. But when they are asking for the pill or condoms they throw up a fuss & say no! Yes, they are too young to be sexually active, but if they are going to be responsible about it, why not give them the protection? We cannot control everything our teens do, so why would we deny them the pill & condoms? Teens will have sex sometime regardless of how much supervision they have. I remember in high school, kids snuck off into the woods and did the deed at noon!! With that kinda stuff going on, how can you say no?

Ok, um...so did you ever think that THE WILL DO IT ANYWAYS PERMISSION OR NOT? Duh? I'm sorry, but if you really believe that a teen will not have sex if they want to JUST because MOMMY & DADDY didn't give them protection...you may need a peek into the reality of it all. At least they are ASKING FOR PROTECTION...cuz OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE GONNA DO IT ANYWAYS!!!! At least they are trying to be smart about it!!!!

Answer 1

From a biological standpoint, the onset of menses indicates that a woman is prepared to have children. This country has put many stigmas and labels on age, many of which are rather strange. In other countries, 8th grade girls would be married off and begin reproducing, so the comment about teens being to young to have sex is a bit misguided. They are deemed too young for our society, but as everyone knows, the hormones dictate when they are ready and they will decide for themselves. At least this 15 year old is smart enough and responsible enough to realize that there are options for her and that she needs to protect herself if she does not want children. This is more than can be said for some of the "adults" of the world, and coming from a country that deems marriage (age 18) as less of a responsiblity than drinking a beer (age 21), its not surprising that so many people say no. NEWS FLASH: YOUR KIDS WILL HAVE SEX! Get over it and equip them with the knowledge to do it safely rather than hoping for abstinence as the only method of birth control around.

Answer 2

I totally agree, even if parents say no many teens will just do it anyway. I'm 15 and I'm on birth control. its not because I'm having sex but I know i wouldn't have sex without it. When i do have sex I'll be smart enough to get a condom. anyone who refuses to give some one the supplies they need to protect themselves are in denial with reality and truly lack common sense.

Answer 3

And if they want to drink let them, if they want to do drugs dont say no, hell yoou cant be expected to watch them every minute and we all know they are going to do it anyway.
What an insane attitude, you think a parent should give a 15 year old so she can protect herself from a pregnancy. Why not teach that child not to have sex at 15, even if you think that they are all doing it anyway. What a cop out as a parent. If My daughter had asked me for the oill for any reason than medical, I would have said no. I would have explained to her that she has no business giving her body away to some young man that will move on to the next young lady when he gets bored, because we all know young love dosnt last. I would further explain that her body is the one thing that she has full control of and as a teenager that should be something to cherish and be proud of. I would end our conversation by stating that if she in fact decided to go against my advice and have sex when and if she got pregnant she would be on her own, I would not be there to take care of her child when she wanted to go to spring break with her girl friends, or babysit so she can go to movie. Her life would be dramatically altered, so think carefully about your actions, there will be consequnces. Its called tough love, parenting whatever. Bottom line you never condone behavior of a teenager that can ruin their lives because it is easier to do so, or because, and I love this one, they are all doing it.

Answer 4

I agree with you. Teens are going to have sex if they're so inclined - refusing to get the pill for a teen is not going to keep her from doing it.

However, if I had a daughter, and if she asked me for that, I would hesitate. I'd like my daughter (hypothetical daughter) to live, not just not be pregnant. I know it's hard to talk with them about that kind of thing, they'd rather not talk about such things with thier mom. Sorry kid, we talk about this. The pill will keep her from getting pregnant, but offers no protection against anything else.

I do have a son. Once he's old enough, he'll learn about condoms and have them available. He will know where to go to get them if he needs them, and to not be embarassed to buy them.

Answer 5

I agree with you. I would rather my teen daughter be on the pill or know how to use condoms than get pregnant at 15. While I'll preach abstinence to my daughter when shes a teenager(shes only 2 now) I know teens tend to do what they want...my sister certainly did. I never had sex as a teenager and hope my children will respect their bodies too.

Answer 6

I don't know why people think that allowing teens access to birth control is "encouraging" them to be sexually active.

OF COURSE parents should talk to their teens about abstinence and let them know that it's the best way to go. But, if a teen is going to have sex, what are you going to do? Keep them locked up forever? Parents can't be there every single second. Personally, I have a younfer sister who is 14, and if she came to me in a year or two, and asked about birth control pills and condoms, I would take her to get them. I don't think it's encouraging anything. I would actually be happy that she is taking responsiblity for her own life, and taking action to prevent pregnancy and STD's.

I think people are ignorant if they think that telling kids not to have sex will prevent pregnancy. Like parents don't do that now? Yet still we have teens posting questions on here every single day worried about pregnancy, and some of them don't even really know what causes pregnancy! Sexual education is SO important! I bet you the majority of their parents told them that they shouldn't have sex. Yet here we are, with teen pregnancy everywhere.

Let teens get the protection they need!

Answer 7

Yeah, I agree with you. I think if the parent states their opinion about it, and asks why they want it, its not necessarily giving them a green light to have sex. Some girls want it to control period cramps,I did when i was 15, and arent even sexually active and dont plan to be.Some want condoms just in case things ever get hot and heavy. Those are the ones who are smart enough to want to be prepared, and denying them the means to protect themselves because we think their not going to do it anyway is ignorance, teenagers are humans too,with crazy hormones on top of that, and humans are sexual beings, plain and simple.

Answer 8

As a mom of 3 girls it is hard to say what I would do. I wouldn't want to give the ok to have sex but you are right regardless of whether or not the parents give in to birth control they are going to have sex anyway. I think I would rather put them on birth control than them end up with a baby at 15.

Answer 9

I agree with you. They're going to do it anyway, and while it might kill me inside to have my 15-year-old daughter experiementing with sex at what I think is a young age, I would get her pills, and tell her to use condoms to prevent STDs. Being open with your kid about these things will make them make healthy and more-informed decisions. Talking with them about the risks might even scare them into not doing it, haha. But I wouldn't scare my kid, either. I would just make sure they were fully aware of the possible consequences and make sure they know that sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but only with the right person.

To make it more fair, I might ask my kid to do more chores to help pay for the pills or something like that. But that's just the basic "nothing in life is free" lesson.

Denying your child of a mean to protect themselves is pushing them away and preventing them from confiding in you in the future.

Answer 10

People say no because they think if they give the kids protection it will ensure that they will have sex, where as if they dont have the protection maybe they will be too scared and not go through with it. I know my cousins guardian wont let her get it so im going to take her.. maybe thats wrong but the last thing this world needs are more teen moms who cant take care of themselves or their babies and get stuck with some loser guy. Anyway... thats my rant.