I'm 31 weeks(with first) along and my boyfriend mom already drives me crazy. She tries to control everything and everything has to be her way. With my own parents it wasn't like that i was very independent and still need my space, I feel like i'm going to go nuts once the baby comes... has any anyone had any similar situation... I really could use the advice! Thanks a lot.
2007-03-27 08:42:23 · 6 answers · asked by Bens Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And we dont live with his parents, we live alone but see eachother very often
2007-03-27 08:49:04 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear you're going through that! Pregnancy is hard enough as it is without the "in-laws" interfereing. I know what you're going through. I plan on working after my maternity leave. My in-laws believe in stay-at-home motherhood. Everytime (no exaggeration) I see them, they make some snide comment. Last time it was that they could understand my decision because "it's a lot easier to go to work than to stay home and raise your kids all day". Seriously! Who says that?! Anyway...I know it's tough but I just ignore them and change the subject. It's best for your baby to have their grandparents in their life. Although I'm sure one of these days they're going to catch me in a "pregnant crabby mood" and that'll be the end of our relationship!
2007-03-27 08:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with the granmother. If you havent approached about the situation and how you feel you are partly to blame. You are the mother, YOU are the one giving birth to this baby so make a stand. You might find that the grandmother didnt know you felt this way, so just bring it up, nicely! Good luck. Ive been in this situation as well.
2007-03-27 15:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Raquel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandma's tend to get over-excited at the thought of their grandchildren sometimes they come off very pushy and bossy and it aggrivates those of us that are having that grandchild. My mom has been the same way at times, there are times I just have to tell her to leave me alone and back off a bit, there has to be boundaries in every relationship. I would make it crystal clear that this is your baby, you will do things how you want, when you want, and do what you feel is best for your child. If you want her opinion you will ask her for it, but otherwise to just let you be a parent! Good luck!
2007-03-27 15:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem - my MIL is ok, but my mom is crazy. The best thing to do is to sit her down and tell her how you feel. She will be hurt at first, but she will begin to understand and it will be ok. I was terrified to tell my mom that we didn't want her at the hospital when I was in labor. She was really upset at first, but I think she's ok with it now.
Don't compromise what you want to make her happy! It's your baby and you will raise it how you want. If she still insists on telling you what to do, tell her you will take her advice to heart, but that you are going to raise this child in your way. Good luck - I know it's hard, but you really need to talk to her before you get pushed over the edge one day and blow up at her!
2007-03-27 17:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to my boyfriend and tell him you wish his mom would lighting up you need a little me time your own space and if he doesn't do anything to help you then you just have to tell her your self in a very nice way or ask your mom to help you on this matter
2007-03-27 15:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by netta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur boyfriend that u wanna live with ur parents if u guys live with his
tell her u need ur space
2007-03-27 15:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋