I am very depressed person. I think that my future is nothing. My wife / child will not care for me in my old age. [Please note that I am doing best fro them in present]. But i can't see love in the eyes of my wife. She is shwing that she cares me , but when it comes to action (Any matter in which any one has to show his/ her feeling), she fails.
Even though this is every body's problem, that she does not cook good food, does not care my clothings and other belongings, have always quarrels in petty matter, even in which i am not involve. If some body say something, she belives blindly. If some thing even not happened , she thinks that that (which she does not like) has happened, and i am responcible.
Please answer me urgently.
2007-03-27 08:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by kumar R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you think you are depressed you must see a doctor. Depression is an illness, a chemical imbalance in your brain. Your doctor should be able to offer you help, whether this is medication or psychotherapy. You need to follow the doctors advice. Involve your wife in this as the more she understands what is happening the happier you will both become.
Please remember that from her side, living with someone who is depressed is as difficult as being depressed.
When you are depressed you will have mood swings, so she will never know how to act around you. You may become withdrawn, so she might find it difficult to talk to you. Your symptoms will make you difficult to live with. My husband finds it difficult living with me when I am depressed. She is probably confused and a little afraid of what the depression is doing to you.
If you feel that she does not care for you this could be your depression discolouring her best efforts. Good food is important as a good diet can help with depression. Do you cook? Could you show her what you like? Help her by explaining what you like to eat. Maybe there are family recipes from your childhood that she could learn.
Most importantly, remember to always thank your wife when she does something for you and to appreciate her efforts and to apologise when you have been angry with her. This will make it easier for her to do the same for you and will help to build a stronger marriage. I am sure if you ask her to help and support you while you are ill with depression and explain to her how it makes you feel then she will be glad to help.
2007-03-29 01:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by MrsWibbly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ...okay I will take a shot at it....
Man, you are the man! Your wife will always be worried so we must try to provide the best way to ensure that wil have them and the survival of our family. It is no longger about us( men) anymore it's about the family. There are many things that we will not have answer for...so don't try because you will never have the right answer. A simple smile, eye to eye contact can go a long way.
So just breath and tell her that you love her, even so much you went out to find the answers to a perfect relationship..But wasn't any success because it is between you and her to work things out. The best that you "TWO" can!! Becuse if you are married you said for rich or poor. But you want more for your family. Ask if she truly loves you...granted the day you met seems long ago. But try to remind her of the times you've shared, just because you have kids now doesn't mean that is the end...invite the kids and the miss to family time. Find the time!!! Makes Big difference.....if none is good well at least you are now sure where you stand. But put in all hope!!!
We all emotionally f*cked in some way!
2007-03-27 09:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by lilboykrazie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if you're so depressed, why aren't you doing something about it? Depression is a real illness and can be treated, and should be treated professionally. Your own depression can cause you to see things in a negative way unnecessarily and can cause others to react in a negative way when there's nothing they can do to help you.
If you drink, drop it right now and take vitamins instead while you look for a therapist. You can do that and read about depression on the internet. You took the first step by recognizing that problem, do something about it quickly and you'll start seeing everything else differently. There's hope.
2007-03-27 08:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are unhappy with this relationship with your wife. If you have always been a depressed person, your wife may assume that you are straying,being distant with her and begins to accuse you of anything and believe anyone.Which leads you to feel more depressed. Do you guys communicate? Confidence is very attractive, something any woman could appreciate, but if you dislike her ways and she isn't willing to improve...then maybe you should seperate, be fair to yourself and your wife.
2007-03-27 09:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Moni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this will make you feel any better but no one really has a future. The proof is all around you, humanity is finished, we're just playing out the string. It isn't just global warming or the upcoming nuclear war between the US and Iran and later the oil war between the US and China.
2007-04-01 03:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by canucklehead1951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love yourself, happiness comes from within, if wife is acting like she don't care that's a one sided relationship they don't work, do what you have to do to make you better and make yourself happy and your children will feel your vibes, don't worry be happy
2007-03-27 09:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by caliwoman52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave,,,its not everybodys problem,,,some people won't stand for it..she's not acting like a wife at all
2007-03-27 08:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋