for couples do you think that you argue/fight to much? how often do you have spats?who usually starts them?

Answer 1

We fight/have a spat about once a week. Both of us have had our fair share of starting the fight.That is common with people who live together. Related or not.The people who say they don't fight are lying, or they wrote a book about the subject. But after we fight, we discuss why we felt the way we did and what our expectations of the other person were so that we don't have the same fight again. It sounds kinda goofy, but we don't sit in a circle or sing songs. We just talk about it while we go about our routines and then we each make a promise to communicate. Communication is the key.

Answer 2

It is futile to place blame on one person or the other. It would be helpful to find ways to deal with problems and use self disciple and better communication skill. It is also helpful to treat each issue as a problem that needs to be solved and here is the hard part do it leaving the emotion out of the issue.

Try to stick to facts and only facts.

Identify the problem.
consider all view and come up with the best solution possible.

God Bless you and Good luck.

Arguing and fighting occur everyday and everywhere.

You ask how often. How often depends on how many issues come up in any given day.

You could also agree to have guidelines as to times reserved to discuss issues so as not to have constant chaos. Some issues just can't wait.

Multiply the issues by each family member the household, each project undertaken.

Answer 3

I would say that we dont fight that much or often. Probably actual fights once every 2-3 months, and maybe one spat a month. And in all honesty, Im probably the initiator of the fighting. I wont lie... I get pretty moody sometimes and he doesnt put up with that, so we butt heads.

Answer 4

I honestly have to say that my wife and I do not argue, spat, fight, or even bicker. We normally discuss our differences on issues and find common ground. However, if we were to argue or something, it would probably be my fault. She is just so sweet and mild tempered. I couldn't see her tossing a bowl at my head or cussing me out. She sees that as very "trashy" anyway and can't stand to be around people who are like that. And guess what? She doesn't gossip or even call her mom if she is unhappy about something. How awesome is that!? Damn I am lucky!

Answer 5

My boyfriend and I argue about something almost every day, but we rarely "fight". Our big clashes usually have something to do with money (or the lack thereof...) and sometimes there's dumb jealousy issues causing problems. But bickering back and forth is totally different than fighting and we do that a lot, LoL. If he could just get it through his head that I'm always right we'd be in good shape! =P

Answer 6

During stressful times we argue more. Like last summer when my b/f's family was picking on me for NO reason. They just decided they wanted him to "move in with his exwife to help her out". WTF? WE've been living together for over 3 yrs! First he said it was just ME, then he started seeing his x at family picnics & BBQ's all of a sudden. NOT in 3 yrs before this time but all of a sudden an interest in his x. Seems she told his family "she was dying of cancer". LIAR! She had cervical dysplasia! They fell for it too! He did too, I found out a couple months ago...but he NEVER told me. He did eventually figure it out for himself but it sure did cause us a lot of fights and hard feelings. Now it's his reckless spending & passive self. We rarely "fight" though. Once a month...now that his family leaves us alone. Summer we seldom fight...we stay outside in the sun most of the time. This isn't to say were safe from breaking up at any time. I get so angry at his xwife for interfering behind my back with his family and her calling him while he's at work to tell him "she's sick". She is a nut, always wanting to be "so sick". She left him, had him arrested for domestic violence but she isn't OVER him. They've been divorced 7+ yrs! She has NO one but their 3 kids, by HER choice. She says she doesn't want to compromise with any man. I try to show my b/f what she is truly doing to him so he won't let her between us anymore. Some times he takes 2 steps back. I guess he feels a loss of his "family" during those moments. I feel them too for my own x...during those times, I stay AWAY from my x. I only ask him to do the same. Long term relationships are very hard work. The love you carry for each other makes it all worth while.

Answer 7

Yes we do way too much!!! Probably 2-3 times a week. She usually gets upset first...she is an A type of personality and if things do not go just a certain way or agree with her she gets very upset.

Answer 8

I think me and my husband fight to much. I say he typically starts the fights but i wont put all on him becasue i can be moody around a certain time of the month. i think we fight a few times a week.

Answer 9

In 7 years we have had 5 serious arguments. We prob have minor dissagreements 1 time a week

Answer 10

Yes, we do! There is no rule as to who starts it and how often. It's inevitable to have arguments in a relationship. If they get too excessive, which means you can't tolerate them, then you might wanna seek couples' therapy.