2007-03-27 08:25:35 · 12 answers · asked by Laura S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it's easy , you sit him down and say guess what sweetie , you think condoms are to much money ?? well just wait until you see how much your going to spend supporting your child that I'm knocked up with
2007-03-27 08:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried that he will be violent in the not taking it well then make it a "dinner announcement". Take your family, his family, and himself out to dinner and make an announcement to everyone, like it was a happy surprise. Act very happy about it, excited. Then he will not be able to blow up in front of everyone in a public place.....if he has any tact. He will most likely stomp off and be angry that you did it that way, but it will give him time to cool off and think about the situation before confronting you about it.
Later you can tell him the reason you did that was because you were afraid of his reaction so you wanted your family there to support you. If he loves you he will understand and possible get an attitude change. It is a good test of loyalties as well.
If you are not afraid of violent behavior, just him upset, just tell him. It is part his fault too. It is not like you made this decision on your own to get pregnant. It was a mutual mishap. And stand your ground on this matter. It is NOT your fault, it is both of you in this 50/50.
If he is this much against it I would really think or possible moving on. You do not have to stay together for sake of child. It is worse that way. If he is against it and you are for it, then leaving is best. He may resent the child or you if you force it upon him. Not a good environment for you or a child. If you are both not ready there are other options, those should be discussed between both of you, and BOTH of you should agree on what to do. No decision should be one sided in a case like this.
2007-03-27 15:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by charice266 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that the two of you need to sit down and have a very serious conversation. If he is 'not taking it well', he needs to be reminded that it takes two people to make a baby, so half the responsibility for your joint situation is squarely upon his shoulders - UNLESS (and this is a big 'unless') you got pregnant on purpose in an effort to make your boyfriend do something you want and he has been resisting. In that case, he will not take it well, and really you won't be able to blame him. OK - possible handslap taken care of - once you've delivered the news, you and your boyfriend should both take a day or two to digest your collective emotional responses to that first serious conversation, and then sit down and have another one, a rational one, about how you are both feeling and what your are going to do to move forward. I'm not going to give specific advice about what to do - you are going to need to decide that together, based upon your personal situations and options. But your pregnancy is going to move forward - so you will both need to be realistic and constructive about it. Fighting about it, wishing it wasn't so and ignoring it will not make it go away.
Best of luck.
2007-03-27 15:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by yankeegirl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. I was 19 and my boyfriend was 22 when I got pregnant, I just turned 20 today and he is almost 23. It is really something to get used to. My boyfriend freaked right out and wanted nothing to do with me and was trying to get me to get an abortion but I stood my ground and just went on with my life and he came to accept it and now he seems happier about it then I was. He keeps feeling my belly move when the baby does, and he and I are closer then ever.
40 weeks pregnant!
Good luck!
2007-03-27 15:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by instilleddistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, i mean it takes 2 to make a baby, he's in this too and i'm sure he knew the consequences of doing it. and you've been together 2 years, he loves you obviously! my fiance and i were not planning on having children anytime soon, we both already had 1 child a piece from previous marriages. well I got pregnant and didn't think he would take it well. to my surprise he was overjoyed when he found out. good luck
2007-03-27 15:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Durty's Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, I wouldn't try to be cute. Just sit him down and tell him you need to talk and let him know the situation. Be prepared with your feelings and thoughts because the two of you need to discuss your options, but ultimately the decision about how you handle this pregnancy is yours. Good luck to you.
2007-03-27 15:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him! If he doesn't like it, tell him you're better off with out him. Women really need to learn to start being independent and not rely so much on a man who doesn't want to be a father to a child.
2007-03-27 16:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry but I have to be blunt.
He knows what can happen when you have sex. If you don't use protection or sometimes even when you do, you can get pregnant. He should be aware of that.
I'd just be honest with him. If he's been with you 2 years he should be supportive.
2007-03-27 15:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy To My Angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean how do you tell him? You JUST TELL HIM.. there is no secret hush hush way around it.. You just have to say it.
Who gives a crap if he takes it well.. If he doesn't know that making a baby is a risk you take when having sex.. then he should probably put his willy away.
2007-03-27 15:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Legs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are going to need to break it to him sometime, if he's going to be a father. You both have a lot of talking to do, good luck x
2007-03-27 15:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by jellybean55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋