loves to pay Chess on the computer and sometimes he plays so much that I get really lonely. We have a 7 month old so when he goes to sleep and Im done doing all the mother/wife stuff and Im ready to hang out, he just plays and plays. Even when we have a coupe of drinks at night, he wont drink with me, he'll drink with the computer. This is making me get evil thoughts.
2007-03-27 08:17:05 · 31 answers · asked by Crash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel. My fiance is a HUGE x-box fan and he plays online all the time. I would tell him that it bothered me and he never really listened. So I cut off the internet and then he realized that I wasn't playing around. So we mad a deal, when I get home from work I usually cook and clean so he'll be playing at that time. When the food is ready he gets off, we eat together (we also have a 4 year old) maybe watch a movie or show then he'll get back on when I am getting our son ready for bed. On Saturday I go out in the morning and do laundry and etc. so he pretty much plays during that time. So as you can see we kind of just set a plan for his "play time" but if your husband is anything like my fiance then he won't really listen untill you really make it hurt! Try telling him how you feel first and try working out a schedule, if that doesn't work CUT OFF THE INTERNET! Good Luck!
2007-03-27 08:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to most problems like this is to communicate. You need to tell your husband your concerns about feeling left out and try a compromise. It would be helpful to find out what is making him play so often. Perhaps he is under a lot of stress at work, maybe with other people, so being away from people at the computer is a way to help him re-focus. A compromise could be worked out where a portion of the evening is for each of you to do solitary activity, allowing for some time together before or after the activities.
2007-03-27 08:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by angelisauce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you put the baby to bed, put on a cute teddy and warm up some baby oil on the stove or microwave and go in and start to give you husband a back massage and wiggle all around him. And have some scented candles burning in your bedroom for when you get him there. You can start to slowly undress him while he's at the computer and continue thru the house. If he doesn't get the idea and respond appropriately, throw the computer in the trash tomorrow! Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-27 08:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a fair question and a difficult one to answer. I sense that he is obsessed with chess. Normally, when a person is obsessed with something and they are in a relationship, it means he is running away from the relationship by running tothe computer.
One thing you could do is:
step1-tell him it makes you lonley and inadequate feeling when he goes on and on playing chess.
step 2-get a second computer or develop a hobby so that you could be in the same room as him while he plays. could be your own computer game, reading, etc.
2007-03-27 08:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Tell him that you miss your time with him. If that doesn't work here is another answer....
One night after the baby is in bed and he is on the computer walk over to him with nothing on but a smile and sit in his lap and tell him that he can play with your "chess" set. You never know it just might work.
I'll probably get reported for this answer, but oh well. It wouldn't be the first time.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-27 08:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by M.S. Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he comes to you for sex.... say no "go play chess". LOL... see how he likes it then.
Or you could just hide the power cord to the computer...and say enough is enough.
Ultimately he needs mental stimulation... sounds like he might have some self esteem issues too...like thinking he'll beat the damn computer. Like who cares...its a game! He needs a reality check big time... talk to him and find out WHY he likes it so much and you'll understand what his life is missing.
2007-03-27 08:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by too_hot4words 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Think of some fun things you could do together. Play chess with him sometimes - it's obviously something he enjoys. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-03-27 08:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, or do what I did, lose a important part to the computer, such as, I had the phone turned off for two weeks he never did that again. He can't play by himself, and when he went to work , the phone worked just when he got home it didn't
2007-03-27 08:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little OH SO Slow as they say while he is playing chess bet he forgets the game
and starts to play with you
2007-03-27 08:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by btempered1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you two ever play together before you had kids? Go tickle him. Do a slow strip tease. Guys want a lady in the living room and a dirty girl in the bedroom.
2007-03-27 08:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by gurthang99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋