i am in my mid 20's and i am seeing a younger guy and we are having a great time and we both really like each other so why does the age thing kinda get to me even though everything else is great and he has this CRAZY ex that is stalking him and won't leave him alone can any opinions out there???
2007-03-27 08:14:03 · 33 answers · asked by BIGDREAMER92630 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is 6 years younger than me, and we have a fabulous 11 year marriage. If it works for you, go for it. Good luck.
2007-03-27 08:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, the crazy ex thing can get out of hand faster than you might think.... I'd worry about that a little more than the age thing - dont worry about age! thats just how long a person has been breathing. True age refers to maturity. If you are on a similar level, you will be fine! If you often find yourself shaking your head at things he does because it is childish, then you may have problems in the future, but if you have a great time together like you said, give it a chance. Hell, even if you break up in a week, month, or year.... why not enjoy each others company for now?
2007-03-27 08:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by aks5903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything is great, then you need to just get over the age thing. If you have a lot in common, get along good and really enjoy each other's company...why let something so trivial get in the way? My sister was in a relationship with someone 8 years older than her, but he was so immature that it just didn't work out. Now, she's with a guy her age and things are great! Maturity and chronological age are two very different things.
As for the crazy ex...have your bf get a restraining order.
2007-03-27 08:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to try and relax, and enjoy your time together, if your guy is happy to be with you, take that at face value, try not to let any insecurities poison your time with your man. Relationships are hard work regardless of age differences, remember that.
You say that your in your mid-twenties, so there cant be that
much of an age difference, your still the same generation, you must share alot in common, for this to be working!!!!
As for the crazy ex, once again see her as just that, and not any threat to you. Dont let yourself worry about his past relationship, because it is in the past, and if she's doing the stalking thing, that's the reason she's the ex. and your his girlfriend..
You go girl, you lucky thing. this should boost your confidence in yourself as a desirable woman, that younger guys find attractive and relationship material. what more could you want
Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy
2007-03-27 08:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by thetheory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that thier is nothing wrong with being in a relationship with an age difference at times it may be a hassle but you will get through the bumps and bruises if you are commited to each other and the realtionship.
In reality the age difference should not matter if the maturity level is there. You should express your feelings on this tioic to your lover and get a court order on the stalker....
2007-03-27 08:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Hidden Poet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation once long ago... and he also had a stalker ex.. how funny anyway... I think the reason the age gets to you is because at times situations (like the case of the ex) give you second thoughts... You feel like you don't got time to play games..right? But if you feel comfortable and you are enjoying your time together I think you should continue to see him but if you don't have time to mess around with the childish things in his life then stay away... Good lucK!
2007-03-27 08:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by *jA* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the age thing is bugging you, there must be a problem. I have a 15 year difference, and I never even think of it. If the ex is really stalking him, get a court order.
2007-03-27 08:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all good... as long as he's at the age of consent, (age varies with each state). Have at it. Heck, even if he's under 16 (which is the minimum across the board), your fine. The double standard has already been set. According to at least 5 different juries... "he's asking for it anyway". So, have a good time!
2007-03-27 08:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much younger. If its a year or two, no biggie, but if you're only in your 20's and dating a guy 10 years younger than you, I think that's very odd. There's a huge difference (or should be) between a 19 year old and a 29 year old.
2007-03-27 08:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gilrfriend is 10 yrs older than me. she did move out after 13 years but she lives right down the street and we still go out. i also have a crazy ex that will always be a........factor in all my relationships. do you love him and do you want to spend ur life with him? i spent 13 years w/ an older woman and it was great. shes the one that got tired of my **** and i think the ex had a lot to do with it. i don't know what to tell you except , don't worry about what other people think or say, do what's right for you.
2007-03-27 08:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by s_2_d_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much younger? Is he 23, 18 or 14? His age and your age will make a big difference in the answer.
2007-03-27 08:17:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋