We have been together almost 7 years...
2007-03-27 08:02:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex cheated at our 7 yr mark as well....stayed together with counseling etc....for another 5...BIG mistake!!!! Divorce was the best thing we both did other then make our two great kids!
2007-03-27 08:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if that's what you both want, then yes it's possible. However it will take tremendous amounts of communication, trust building, and strenght to be able to mend the hurt that has happened because of the affair. You could try a type of marriage counceling to see if you can seek help if you think that you guys couldn't do it alone. No relationship will ever work unless they share common goals and communication....hopefully you guys can still rediscover that and reconnect and find out why there was an affair to begin with. Whatever the outcome...goodluck, stay strong!
2007-03-27 15:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that a marriage can be saved from anything. Yes it is hard but years of a marriage is just to important to just throw away. Human Beings are just that we are not perfect and are subject to mistakes. It is how we deal with those mistakes and grow from them that will in the end decide on the chances of the marriage surviving. Just because we falter does not mean that we are not worthy of the love of a spouse. Love consist of many things including tolerance so if you keep in mind that this is the man that you love and the man that you chose to marry and he does the same you can keep the lines of communication open and hopefully you can get back what it is that is obviously lacking or missing from the marriage. Just never stop talking and listening and growing
2007-03-27 15:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no....it depends on the people and how much commitment you have to oneanother. If I were the person cheated on I wouldn't because you'll just hurt me again. And by that time I will have tried to move on. it's hard and cheating never pays. I think without a break and just working on it would be a better answer. --can show oneanother the honesty in the relationship
2007-03-27 15:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by jcss_003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different, but I do believe it's possible. I think it would take time for both parties to get over the hurt and take the time to be alone to reevaluate themselves and the relationship. Over time relationships tend to dissolve and its hard to find a way back. It's safer to quit, but life is about making decisions and if both parties make a decision to work it out, I hope you two both show it in terms of actions. It is harder to love than to be angry. I wish you two the best and pray you find your answers.
2007-03-27 16:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
They can, but no one can force it on the other. If one wants it and the other doesn't, the only thing that person can do is work on making themselves happy. If you work on yourself, and make sure you are happy and healthy, not only are you more attractive to the other person, but you are also prepared to be on your own if need be.
An affair is never the ACTUAL problem with the marriage. It's usually a symptom. Counseling---and many support groups help.
I suggest http://www.survivinginfidelity.com
It helped us. :)
2007-03-27 15:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by val girl_38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is always possible. When you love someone, it isn't always necessary to kill the relationship and begin again. Especially if you still love one another. Affairs happen, but you must get at the reasons why they do. Finding answers will help you grow and could improve your relationship.
2007-03-27 15:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by stormc2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! My husband had an affair. It devastated me. I left with the kids. He realized his mistake and came back. It took many years of learning to trust, but he felt I was worth the work. We realized our marriage was bigger than this, and that is how we got Thur it. Well, God played a big part. So don't forget him.
2007-03-27 15:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can work out if you really want it to. I have been trough it and it was rough, but We have now made it to 13 years and he had an affair 6 years ago. You can make it.
2007-03-27 15:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you do while your breaking. If he or she going to date other people then no it's not going to work. Because your not working together. That just means your working on your self. If your going to break that means finding yourself and working together. If your going to date or your partner is your making the saturation worse. You just adding a other problem. What if she gets pregnant by other guy or he gets other women pregnant, how would that be working on it. or someone falls in love with you or your partner or you or your partner falls in love or gets feelings for someone else? To work on it is to educate yourself on relationships in following though.Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has really good books on relationships.
2007-03-27 15:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋