Trying to Conceive for 8 months now!?

Question

Had a m/s 8 months ago. Been trying to conceive since then. Have irregular periods and just started using OPK.
I hate charting BBT, mostly because at the end it will only tell me about the day after ovulation.

1st month on OPK, I followed the instructions to the letter. No luck there.
Shouldn't OPK work the 1st time around if you do it right?
This is getting annoying, I'm still sad from my miscarriage..and stressed out TTC.

Answer 1

I can't say this enough, relaxing is not the answer to infertility, especially for someone who is having irregular cycles! Relaxing does not cure medical problems that may be associated with difficulty conceiving. If you really want to annoy someone who is having trouble trying to conceive, then tell them to relax, or go get drunk, etc. That is not a serious answer for infertility. Please, please stop giving this advice.

Not all women ovulate on day 14 of their cycle. Especially a woman who has irregular periods, chances are she is not ovulating on that "magical day 14." We are not robots, we are human beings and that means that each and every one of us is different. Some women ovulate earlier, some much later than that. On that same answer, having sex as often as possible on one day is not going to increase your chance of conceiving. Many doctors recommend having sex every other day during the fertile period to maximize the number of healthy sperm. I don't remember anything in the question about who has the "studliest husband." TMI. Honestly, this is a serious issue for someone who has had difficulty conceiving and has suffered a miscarriage. It is a very difficult and stressful thing to go through.

One of the best ways to know your fertile time is by checking your cervical fluid. When it becomes like the consistancy of eggwhites, then that is the best time to time intercourse (can do it every day with good sperm count, or every other day with lower sperm count). The only problem is that sometimes it is difficult to distinguish cervical fluid if you don't produce a lot of eggwhite fluid. You can also check the position and softness of your cervix as a secondary fertility sign. The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler does a terrific job at explaining how to chart your fertility signs, so it might be worth picking up. Also, Fertilityfriend.com will teach you everything online and it is free to sign up. Charting your temps is a good way to confirm ovulation once you are familiar with your other fertility signs, so it might be worth doing that again too. It is true that stress can affect fertility, but maybe being able to find out some answers with what is going on with your cycle will help to relieve some of that stress. It might also help to talk to some of the women on fertilityfriend.com who have been there.

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you see your positive test soon. Take care.

Answer 2

Oh I am sorry that you are so stressed! It must be very hard for you especially having a miscarriage!Stress effects your ovulations and periods so try to be more relaxed and not focus all you energy on it! . I think that this is happening so that you will be one of those people that appreciate being pregnant and you will enjoy every second of it because you waited so long! you can't have great joy without knowing the other side. Good luck! It is a beautiful thing! I just gave birth to my daughter and she was so worth the wait.

Answer 3

some human beings get pregnant suited away and others take a on a similar time as. I even have been attempting for 9 month and that i went to work out a fertility expert to help discover if I actually have a situation. They advise you wait a minimum of a 365 days of attempting earlier you bypass to a expert in spite of the shown fact that it relies upon what you decide on. are you in a hurry to have a baby? or are you able to attend a 365 days and then bypass to a expert? I waited six months and then between testing it replaced into 9 months attempting of course. i'm little bit of a hurry with the aid of fact I actually have a 4 365 days outdated son so i did not choose them to be so some distance aside. i'm in my first cycle of clomid and set off shot so we could see if it particularly is my month.

Answer 4

OK... now listen...
I did this and it works.
This advice was given to John Lennon from Bagwon Shree Ragnish. I really do not like both of them that much but the advice was good.
Proper eating, no cigarettes or drugs for both. 14 days after your last period have sex. After having sex in the missioary position hold your knees to your chest for at least 15 minutes while on your back. Try to do this as mant times as you can all that day. If you're not sure what day is 14 days after your last period, do it with in the three days you think it is. We ended up doing it seven times in one day (yeah I'm a stud lol) and it worked.
The reason I was having trouble is because the doc took too much skin off when I was circumsized and lost the ability to um send something off with force.

Answer 5

Stress is one of the biggest hurdles u have to cross while ttc. Be relaxed.. take time offf.. spend a holiday.. read amd listen to calm sounds and music... eat healthy and let ur body recover in order to prepare u for the new pregnancy. This will Help u heal and rejuvinate. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Your problem is that you’re over stress. Try enjoying your spouse when having sex (don’t just have sex to get pregnant) Oh, please don’t stress out your spouse by saying, “his not complete man cause he can’t get you pregnant (just in case you have)”. The key word is RELAX. You guys will get your turn.

Answer 7

Kinda hard to believe that when you want a child but miscarry, others purposely kill their unborn child. I hope you have one, you have your head on straight!