I am very interested to hear from people who are married or in a permanent relationship who have needed the relationship to continue even when the spouse tells you he/she is no longer in love with you and/or who cheats on you time after time. What makes you do it? Why do you want someone who doesnt want you? Does marriage/long term relationships make you lose your pride? Have you lost the need to be loved? Or do you think marriage is viewed as ownership, and its not so much the fact that your spouse does not love you anymore...but more the fact that you would be losing your possession? The more questions I see on here, the more I am wondering where has the need to be loved gone?
2007-03-27 07:51:25 · 10 answers · asked by rightio 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, I do read every answer and I dont mind detailed thoughtful input either.
2007-03-27 08:00:53 · update #1
if anything, the need to be loved by someone has increased, which is exactly why people fight to keep their partners, even when their partners do things to hurt them, they have come so far with that person and always want to "make it work" becuase at some point in the relationship, there was a love there, and the thought of finding someone else is too time consuming.i agree tho, sometimes it is just rediculous, i mean obviously if someone cheats on you, they dont deserve you, yet still people keep crawlin back. oh well.
2007-03-27 08:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by candi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people these days get the idea that marriages are just throw-away. Why work on it when you can just get a divorce and 50% of everything to start all over again with? True love is cyclical, the butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling wanes over time if nothing is done to maintain romance. Most successful couples find themselves falling in love with their spouse many times over during the relationship!
2007-03-27 15:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are creatures of habit. Once a person gets use to a certain lifestyle or another person's habits, changing all of that and ending a relationship can be very drastic on ones self esteem and sense of belonging. Similar to smoking, once you are use to something every day, its hard, even traumatic to break the habit. I personally dont believe its about possession for most, but about changing something that one person desperately for whatever reason does not WANT to change. Some people give up being loved for routine. Some people wont ever give up on love, but give up on committment. It can go many different ways, I guess thats why we are all different.
2007-03-27 15:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay because marriage is a life long deal...its not something that you have for a while then throw it away...People back in the days never got divorced, they just stuck thru it.
2007-03-27 14:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pitiful to beg someone to stay with you . I think that it is a waste of time and energy.
2007-03-27 15:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by sewyred 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity..
Low self esteem..
2007-03-27 15:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-wife said it was the rejection.
2007-03-27 15:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my husband and he loves me and we both need each other very much
2007-03-27 14:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by san b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, any way you look at it. It's hard.
2007-03-27 14:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by ik ben alphabetsoup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmmm uhhhh ok
2007-03-27 14:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋