ladies, how many of you married your first boyfriend?

Question

I`d really love this to be the case with me. I want the real thing. Some of my friends just won`t understand this, but this is what I`d like.
Well, guys ask and fall in love with me, but I just flee if I don`t think they could be the one. I like to have them as friends first.
Do youthink this can work out?

Answer 1

I did. We first met when I was 9 and he 11 and at a convention our parents were at. We played with each other for 2 days. Fast forward a few years--he and my brother were attending a jr high track meet and after talking to each other between events, he asked my bro if I was his sister and if he had a picture of me. My bro showed him my pic and he kept it. A few years later they met again in high school even though we grew up 20 miles apart (3 small town shared 1 HS). They started talking and realized who each other was and he asked about me again. It ended up that he was best friends with my neighbor 2 doors down. One day he and my neighbor came in to the local greasy spoon where I worked as a waitress and sat in my section and ordered a lg basket of FF and 2 sodas and would not leave me alone. My neighbor and I pratically grew up together and they asked me over for movies after work. For some reason I went. I had no idea that he was the boy I had played with years earlier. After that day, he kept calling my house and won my mom over. I still had no idea. Not long after that, we started hanging out together at my neighbor's house and became b/f g/f. It was about 2 months before he told me who he was and it totally blew me away. We were both virgins and have always been together never dating anyone else. I became preg at 17 and we married 2 months before our baby was born. We now have 4 children and have been happily married for 16 years, together for 19 1/2 yrs. It's funny that both of our parents were against us getting married and we have been happy the whole time and that both his and my siblings who married as adults have been married at least 2 times each. I know we are the exception to the rule as far as getting married in our teens, but I guess there is something to be said for young love. I honestly believe that we were meant to be together and I can't imagine my life without him.

Answer 2

I just think love is love...I'd rather marry my 3rd boyfriend and be the happiest woman on earth, than to marry my first and have it be in disaster! So I don't think there is ever a "perfect" scenario because that's just life...love is never perfect and sometimes you find it in one mate and other times you don't. Life is a growing process and you only hope that if you are unhappy that you are strong enough to leave and move on to finding true happiness! So of course it can work out...what's the point in staying with someone thats not "the one?!

Answer 3

Well, I had boys that we said we were boyfriend/girlfriend but never went anywhere together, etc. I did marry the first person that I was aloud to date. I fell in love with him when we were young and he was my first and will be my last. We've been married eleven years. Sometimes I wonder what life would have been like if I had dated other guys before I made my final choice but then I realize that it would be him still.... and then I know that I couldn't live without him. :)

Answer 4

here is my expereince....
i am NOT marrying my first boyfriend. I am marrying my 5th boyfriend.
My sister IS marrying her first boyfriend. She just got engaged about a month ago. They are the cutiest couple.
One of my friends did marry her first boyfriend (they've been happily married for 2 years now..)
I think it all depends on how you feel about the person. If you find love right away you are lucky and should stick with it. some of are not that lucky and have to look for a while. don't feel like you have to settle for anyone~the perfect match is out there SOMEWHERE!

Answer 5

Well, Yes I think you should not date someone if they are not the one.. I also think you have to date in order to find the one. Believe me if I had married the first guy that came along I could have made a huge mistake..... I think you always think someone could be the one....but when you meet the right one you choose to love them and be loved by them. Things don't just happen you choose them. Good luck and love someone...

Answer 6

YES...friends first make the best marriages! I wish I had married my first love. He asked me when I was nineteen but I said no...my life would of been far better if I had accepted his proposal. He'd NEVER of laid a hand on me in anger...that's for sure. NEVER stay with an abuser...I believe young love can turn into adult love & make a lasting marriage...good luck. Hold out for Mr Right!

Answer 7

I married my first true love.....I am not divorced.....however we are still friends and we are working on getting back together. Just remember unless you both have had time to check out what is out there in the world when you all hit your 30's you may start wondering, keep this in mind. My ex-husband became very curious and found out what he wanted he already had.

Answer 8

For most people, it's not likely, but nothing is impossible! My parents had this "rule" not to marry the first person you were engaged to (I hate it when people make dumb rules like that). But I ended up marrying the second person I was engaged to, anyway (and I had several boyfriends before that). But love doesn't really follow a set of rules!

Answer 9

not me... I was with my first bf for 2 years and he broke my heart. I was serious and ready to start a good life for us but he was a lazy jerk. I still miss him even though he hurt me so bad, we only broke up a few weeks ago. All I know is I am not getting back with him. We just wernt meant for each other..:(

Answer 10

I didn't. How do you know he's not the one if you don't give him a chance? And how can you say that they fall in love with you if you won't even go out with them? It sounds kind of foolish and childish to me.