My boyfriend and I are moving to the next level of our relationship and I am a littel aprehensive because everytime we make plans, he breaks them. The excuse is either he has been called into work or that something with his sister (always his sister) came up. For example we made plans 2 Saturdays in a row and the first time he was putting an entertainment center in for his sister and she showed up late and he still did it and broke our plans, and the second Saturday he stayed outof town with his dad who had a surprise bbq just for the heck of it. He didn't seem to care until I told him that I was not going to take this anymore then there was remorse. Am I justified for prolonging my answer to his engagement?
2007-03-27 07:44:23 · 8 answers · asked by candyvision06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
until u see a change in his behavior towards u, don't commit, because we do teach people how to treat us, by what we are willing to put up with from them. your are suppose to be the priority here, not his family, if its always about his family its always going to be this way. u deserve better than this, u should not be at the bottom of the totom poll, they should. he needs to speak up to them, and tell them he has plans.
2007-03-27 09:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A leopard cannot change its spots. If he can't hold to a commitment now, he sure won't be able to later. Too many women think they can change a man once they get married. Unfortunately they lose lots of time, money, and spirit trying. If you continue with the relationship, be prepared for more and more disappointments.
2007-03-27 15:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by short shrimp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if he keeps blowing you off then there may be a possibility that he's seeing someone else along with you. I'm not completly sure because some guys are different, but usually they're cheating when they start blowing you off and come up with excuses why they blow you off. If I were you, I'd talk to his sisters to get the facts.
2007-03-27 14:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by candy_lover_4ya2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into anything!! Old habits are hard to break. Tell him it's time to level with you and see exactly where things stand! Sounds like he's just making excuses. Good luck :o)
2007-03-27 15:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this now and you're not even engaged yet, imagine what it will be like after you're married.
I'd make him show major improvement in this area before I'd accept an engagement ring.
2007-03-27 15:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is bailing because of family, ask if you can come along too! Maybe by being more involved in his life, he will see what he is really missing. Good luck
2007-03-27 14:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he ain't even got a sister!
2007-03-27 14:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yip i think you are i don't think he will ever change he will always be the same so your gonna have to learn to live with it or leave him sorry x
2007-03-27 14:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋