2007-03-27 07:41:39 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That reminds me of the saying: If a man speaks in the forest and no woman is around to hear, would he still be wrong?
NOTE: The above answer does not necessarily reflect the opinion of the answerer. Answerer does not endorse--nor is responsible for--any perceived or imagined man-bashing resulting from said answer.
2007-03-27 07:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 25 years of my first and only marriage, I would encourage you to exercise patience. It is not about who is right and who is wrong.
It is not about who wins and who loses. You two are now a couple. The couple has to win. The relationship has to grow. Think in terms of we.
Pick your battles. Is it worth it? The relationship suffers everytime someone is rejected or undermined. Does it really matter what color something is? For a guy, usually not. But for a woman, it is usually very important.
If you feel you will be hurt by her stance on a particular issue, you need to present your argument in a way that does not make her defensive. You need to appeal to her own maternal instincts.
Saying "It hurts me when you say this or that" is a good thing. Saying "I need your help with this or that" is a good thing.
Attacking her opinion, calling her names, getting angry will not help you or your relationship.
Do NOT become a door mat. Women do not respect men that just roll over.
Usually, women are used to getting their way. Daddy's little girl is sometimes a spoiled brat. Do not let her get away with her temper tantrums.
If she raises her voice, calls you names, etc. You need to look her in the eye until she finishes. Then say in a calm voice, "We can continue this conversation once you have calmed down."
Then walk away. Do not respond to her. Get some distance between you. Allow her time to calm down. Then tell her "I need you to be calm when we discuss our issues. It hurts me when you call me names."
Just a few tips from an old dog that continues to learn new tricks.
2007-03-27 15:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by gurthang99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now, if only every husband could figure this out the world would be a much happier place!!! LOL J/K I truly believe that all relationships are give and take!! Being able to admit when you are wrong is the hard part for most. You "win" some you "lose" some. Just don't be a sore loser, and don't gloat when you win!!! ;) And you should be just fine.
2007-03-27 16:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jaysgirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. marriage is a union between husband and a wife they have a different responsibility in the home the wife must submit to his husband submission is a very important aspect of life once you did not submit it is a revelion. the husband has mandated to love her wife love is also a very important aspect of a relationship. love cover the the missing part of any relationship
2007-03-27 14:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by bob m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the only way to make a marriage work is to find a middle ground. One person usually has a better answer but there is black and white to everything.
2007-03-27 14:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
O god NO! My husband is usually right. Im the first to jump to the WRONG conclusion or push things the WRONG way, and he will have to sit there for HOURS sometimes and explain to me why my way of thinking is impossible... Usually because Im so hard headed I cant possibly imagine my way of thinking to be wrong... when in fact, the majority of the time...he is definitly right. But dont tell him I said this...hahaha
2007-03-27 14:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; and I certainly hope you're not talking about YOUR marriage.
A well-balanced relationship is one in which responsibility and tasks are shared. No one needs to be "the one in charge."
2007-03-27 17:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure. If only my husband would get that.
2007-03-27 15:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not. I would then feel like a mother instead of a wife.
2007-03-27 14:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah if you want it to last..of course it is one sided.Just be man enough to let you wife run everything, and not start to get controlling.
2007-03-27 14:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋