and she is trying to tell my son what to do and what not to do. Its really getting to me now and i just want to say f**k off. She is lovely but cant do with her telling my son off. I dont get involved in her children but one day im going to go mad at her. and when she asks him to do something there is no please or thank you. So I say please to him all the time when i talk to him and always have done. I have told him to tell her or ask her to say please and thank you.
I dont want to have a go at her but i have hinted and she is not getting it.
2007-03-27 07:37:40 · 10 answers · asked by Pinkflower 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to have a chat with your son and tell him that next time she asks him to do something he should just ignore her completely. If she says something then it's your chance to tell her what's wrong and dont' be afraid to tell her.
2007-03-27 07:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and upfront and tell her. Do it when the kids aren't around, go out for a drink or something and just tell her, be tactful and don't say it in a nasty way. Wouldn't you want her to tell yo if you were doing something that upset her?
If you just leave it you're going to end up really resenting her and maybe losing her as a friend. You obviously care a lot about her because you haven't just told her to f**k off!
Good luck x
2007-03-28 03:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how much you value your friendship with your friend. If she's a good friend of yours, I think you should sit down and talk with her and tell her what you really think, but be polite (yet specific). If she's a good friend, she'll understand, and do what you want her to do. Ask her if she does this with other friends' children. If she still can't take a hint, you're probably better off without her. You're the mother, not her. Don't let her take your authority + get away with it.
2007-03-27 07:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by green004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hint, have a talk with her. Tell her it's not just her, but you don't like anyone telling your son what to do. Don't be rude, just tell her how the situation is. If it continues, that's when you should really have a go at her.
2007-03-27 10:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi first off im not being horrible ,but it will come wrong, but your job is to look out for your children and if someone got something to say to them they can say it through you not to them, if your friend is telling your child what to do in front of you then you should stand up for them. ask your child to go out to play for a bit then tell your friend that if they have some thing to say do it through you.
you have a duty to protect your child
2007-03-27 18:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by sandpipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pfft hints are so unseen.. talk to her directly. with your son not in the room, tell her that when someone else's tries to raise your kids, as a mother, it makes you feel like someone is trying to take your job as a mom or do it better. its you kid, your job to raise it. tell her to stop raising her son even if its for the better. thats your job.
2007-03-27 08:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always best,maybe you could steer the conversation to that sort of thing like bringing kids up and drop hints how it makes you cringe when someone tells your boy what to do,its a shame to fall out.
2007-03-27 09:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by rebel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be very difficult for you to listen to your friend telling your son what to do.all you can do is just tell her that he is your son and that you will deal with it. she might not like it because she sounds to me like someone that likes to be in control even in other peoples homes just stay strong he is your son not hers.
2007-03-27 09:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would use tact on this one
just say you have a friend who seems to be telling your son what to do.........
basically ask her advice about it all and see what she says
maybe then she will think about what you have said and realise she is like that
is worth a try without upsetting her 1st!
good luck x
2007-03-27 07:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by rachealuk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her straight, not to interfere with your family.your son must be wondering why his mum isn't strong enough to stick up for him,your son comes first, if you offend her she wasnt worth having.
2007-03-28 20:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by dizzykatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋