How can I get my 15 yo to get more excited about her sister's arrival? we are taking in a 13 yo girl into foster care (we're hoping to eventually adopt). she's coming to live with us tomorrow. my 15 yo (also adopted when she was almost 12) is not all to excited about her arrival. the 13 yo will be sharing a room with our 17 yo daughter and my 15 yo is sharing with our 14 yo daugter. i don't think it has to do with that or sharing her parents as we are already a large family and the other kids are syked. what can i do to get her more excited (if I can)?
2007-03-27 07:35:33 · 7 answers · asked by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i would start by reminder her of how she felt when she got a family, but at the same time i would not push it on her. Maybe you 2 can go and pick out a few things for your new daughter.
Thanks for what you do, it make a difference in the world. If more people were like you, every child would have a good family. Good Luck!
2007-03-27 07:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to get excited. They are teens and they all want privacy as in their own room. I'm 15 and I wouldn't want to share a room either. Maybe you should consider that and buy a big house if your going to have so many kids. As you said you don't THINK it has anything to do with it, you never really discussed their feelings. How thoughtless.
2007-03-27 17:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait hold on... You're the other girl's mother?! Wow, I've never ever ever never ever seen something so much as two people who know eachother in real on Y!A at the same time...
Amazing...
Well just get your 17 yr old to give the reasons why a new sis is good.
P.S. did you also adopt your 17 yr old, or did you get her the old fashioned way?
2007-03-27 15:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Russly F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just need to sort this out on her own for now. That's a big change, having a new sibling come in. I think she'll be okay once she gets to know her. By the way, I admire you for taking a teenager into your home that might not otherwise have a chance.
2007-03-27 15:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push...let the two girls work it out themselves. Personality has a lot to do with things. Does this daughter get excited over other things? Maybe she's just not interested. I would leave it alone.
2007-03-27 14:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can´t make her more exited cause basically is the arrival of competition inside of her own terrein, what you can do is give to her more security and hope that they will get along...
2007-03-27 14:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
involve her in everything ask her questions her opinion on things to donot leave her out of anything.
2007-03-27 14:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by littledebi82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋