I've been going out with this girl for about 5 months, and I'm completely in love with her. However, one of her good (male) friends just told her he loves her, and she is confused. As her boyfriend, I love her dearly, and want her to stay with me, but as her friend, I want to be there for her and ease the confusion. And overall i just want her to be happy. But what do i do? And do I take her confusion and hesitation as a sign that she might not even feel about me the way I feel about her? Please, all advice is welcome.
2007-03-27 07:24:41 · 11 answers · asked by dublem13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her what you just told us. you might be surprised at her reaction. women like men that are sensitive to their feelings
2007-03-27 07:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation that I will try to answer the best I can.
There is either one of two things you can do. One let it slide continue the relationship as it has been the last 5 months and hope it just goes away.
or
Address it with her after a few days. Have a sit down conversation and just see what she is feeling. If she is confused maybe its just a momentary thing, but it might also be a signal of the end with things with you. Being part of a couple and a friend is two aspects of your relationship that will need to be seperated if she decides to break up with you, which if that does in fact happen you should take a break from the friendship til you are ready to seperate feelings from friendship.
I hope that helps you a bit.
2007-03-27 14:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by lovelornlarry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm tricky. Ok think it through....
I think you should talk to her about it by yourselves, tell her that you love her dearly etc, but that you are also her friend, and want to see her happy, and if that means that she goes out with this other guy that will be ok with you (if that it how you feel). If not, tell her you love her and that you don't want to lose her because you feel like you have a great relationship, and that her close friend may love her, but you know it will never be like the love you have for her :-) I hope this helps, but please only say how you feel, not how i said you should feel :-p
2007-03-27 14:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push her just give her space. Either way you are going to come out on the winning side. If she goes with the friend then she was not as invested in the relationship as you are; if she stays with you, she will appreciate you for giving her the space to make a decision.
2007-03-27 14:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by imjuxcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...well you got something going on, obviously you are just going to have to take things slow, she may hardly know you. But that is her friend too. So if her friend loves her also, he may has liked her for the longest time ever. Maybe longer than you. But take things slow, see where things go. Thats all i can try and basically tell you.
Just don't let him make the moves on her. This is all you can about do, that i can tell you.
2007-03-27 14:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. She is getting a big head. Its not really all tnat nessesary. She should have never told you what the other guy said unless she was really diggin it.
Move on. Its only been 5 months and better to leave now than wait for a year and really have wasted your time.
2007-03-27 14:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i would say that she is probably ask her why she is confused. why would a women become confused when a friend says they love her? just listen to her and talk to her to find the root of the problem of her "confusion". i think if she says she is confused it means she is not totally sold on you and probably enjoys this guys friends friendship. BUT, when he told her that it really set her back on her heels. She may not want to lose the friendship but really like, love you. just listen to her and let her do the talking.
2007-03-27 14:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should help her clear up the confusion, because she has to decide by herself whether she likes that guy or not and your interference will make you look good in front of her that she might think she likes you more than the other guy, while she isn't.
2007-03-27 14:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that she's with you for a reason. And you should be there for her as her friend as well as her boyfriend. Talk to her about it.
If you put yourself in her shoes and your best girl friend told you she loved you, you'd bound to be a bit confused.
As long as you tell her she can talk to you about anything and everything and let her know, she'll open up to you as your friend too.
Good luck.
2007-03-27 17:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by thissideofxbrightness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, you seem like too nice of a guy. Try to keep her man. If you love her that much. Will she be happier with you or with him? What a jerk telling her that knowing you are with her.
2007-03-27 14:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋