My friends of like 10 + years dislike my fiance' for no reason...or i guess reasons that dont exist....they both think hes going to get me pregnant and leave me, cheat on me, or hurt me in some way... there is without a doubt no reasons for these accusations...
2007-03-27
07:18:22
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It really upset me..and love my fiance' even more..
I'm young 19 and i know what i want...kyle (my fiance) but know i am sad that i don't have my friends....anyone else feeling like this....did you choose love or friends...and how can i show them im better off without them...
We've been together for a long time four years as friends one year and a half as a couple and just 8 months as engaged....My friends wanted to me to go for a ladies night at a sleazy bar and bring no money..P,S they have pretty sleazy reps too..i said no and the next day they said what they had about kyle..
2007-03-27 07:35:24 · update #1
Its obvious that your friends are 30% jealous and 20% crazy and 50% possessive of you.
They miss the times together, and also maybe cant accept the fact of you getting engaged.
2007-03-27 08:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Regnex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying that your friends of 10+ years are evil but I have to think maybe they aren't if you were friends with them for so long. Could they see something in your fiance that you don't? And you said there are "friendS", which is plural, if just one friend disliked your fiance I would say maybe it's the friend and not the fiance, but if several don't like him I say maybe its the fiance and not the friends. Think about it. And you never need to "prove" you are better off without them, that's juvenile. Just being happy with what you have and moving on should be enough. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-27 07:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can be blind. A lot of the times, your friends tell you things that can be hard to take, but in the end, they are usually right. They are trying to protect you b/c they love you and don't want to see you get hurt. Men do come and go but friends are there for you in the end. You are young and in love and it won't be the last time! I don't recommend getting married right away. There's nothing wrong with being engaged for a few years. Go to school, go after your goals and discover yourself. Don't put your life on hold for anyone. Be strong and talk to your friends about how you feel instead of breaking all ties with them. And don't forget, you haven't lost all your friends, Kyle is still there for you...Good luck to you!
2007-03-27 07:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I chose love over friendship. I lost all my friends, and then I lost the one I loved, because she really didn't care about me, in the end. Your friends have always been there for you for the last 10+ years, right? How long has this guy been there for you?
And, speaking as a man, let me tell you a few things. We don't care as much as you do, in general. We don't want you crying on our shoulders, and we don't want you telling us how you feel. We may say we do. Thats because we are also chronic liars.
We are naturally good at getting girls to turn against their friends that don't approve of us, and even better, make the woman think that it was the others turning against her.
We want to party. We want to sleep around. Especially when we are your age (I'm 22, I know this).
People, when they are falling in love, force themselves to be absolute idiots and see NONE of the flaws of their partners. Your friends aren't in love with him, so they see his flaws. And I am guessing, if he's the sort of man who is willing to let you lose all your friends just to be with him, that the flaws are many, and deep.
Grow up.
2007-03-27 07:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by davidw5748 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last paragraph is not true. Your friends really are looking out for you. There is something that makes them not like him!!! BUT the good news is, if they are your real friends then they will come back. TRUST ME!!! My finace and I have been engaged for 2 years, been dating for 4. My best friend all the way through high school and college HATED him and finally a couple years into college after not talking for almost a year she came around. The truth all came out. She was jelous of him. I spent all my time with him and not her and of course we are women but she got jelous. THEN she got a boyfriend I despised and instead of acting like she acted we decided to set one day every week just for us to hang out. THIS HAS WORKED GREAT!!
Talk to your friend. Really talk and get to the REAL problem. She will feel better and so will you, because if you are on yahoo asking peoples opinion then you really must be upset about the situation and want to resolve it!!! Good Luck!
2007-03-27 07:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are right and maybe they are wrong... A good friend would say no matter what you choose I will be there for you.. regardless if you fall on your face or not..Ask them if they have legitimate proof that he might do these things. If they can show you proof then that is something you need to think about.. If they cant show you proof then maybe they are just jealous. Good luck either way.
2007-03-27 07:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to listen to what they have to say. You don't spend ten years with a person and not know what's good for them. They are probably looking out for your best interest.
On the other hand if they're being just evil explain to them how you feel and how much you care about your man.
2007-03-27 07:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that friendship is more important than love in sometimes. but, if u feel like that ur friends are taking away ur happiness by temprory pleasure like going to a ladies club or whatever so, i think u have to agree ur boyfriend. having a family and a loving husband (later) is more important than doing nothing in this life with ur friends. have fun with them but keep ur fiance's opinion number one.
wish u luck with him.
2007-03-27 07:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still young girl are you sure you want to be engaged
are you sure when you turn 25 you still want what you have now is this your 1st relationship you only 19
But if you sure its totaly up to you
Good luck i hope it works out for your sake
2007-03-27 07:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Janice M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they love you then they should of told you how they felt and just left it alone and let you make your own mistakes (if they think you are making a mistake). True friends will love you no matter what. So I would just try to make new friends
2007-03-27 07:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋