How do I get over being shy?

Question

When I am around people i do not know or meeting to the first time, I shut down, no conversation at all, and it take a lot for me to break out of my shell. So how do I over come it

Answer 1

I still am shy, but I learned that instead of worrying that your shy and that your in this situation with people around you, you should focus on the people that are around you, even if you dont feel like saying anything straight away just listen to what is being said and dont worry about yourself, and DONT PUT TO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF, thats what really makes people that are shy go even more into their shell. Good luck.

Answer 2

Make a game of it. Before going into a situation like you've just described; make a deal with yourself to talk to the first person who makes eye contact & smiles at you. Even if it's just a simple "hello, how are you". See how many times you can use that phrase & what were their replies...if you think of it as a game it will take the pressure off. The stress of "will they think I'm ____"? Also, don't take yourself or others so serious in those situations. Believe it or not, some shy ppl talk alot instead of clamming up. NO one realizes they talk out of nervousness not from having the greatest social skills. And showing a sense of humor always seems to break the ice. Good luck

Answer 3

Everyone is inherently shy, i am v.shy although people don't believe me when I tell them. The best thing that works for me is taking a breath and being a bit of a joker, its a good icebreaker
Chances are if you're in a new environment with other peolple, they're waiting for someone to break the ice too.
Whats the worst that could happen?

Answer 4

Don't worry about it. :) Some people are shy and quiet, and some are loud and obnoxious, and some are someplace in the middle.

Don't get yourself thinking that there's any specific "right" way to act as long as you're polite and repsectful. Also, don't stress over it or start avoiding new situations. You don't need to be instant friends with everyone you meet, as long as you have people you're comfortable around and can trust.

Answer 5

I am just the same way. There isn't really a way to get over it. But probably as you get older the more you arn;t shy, when i was younger i was total break down but i am not 16 and im a bit less shy.

Answer 6

I used to be exactly like you, whenever i met somebody new i couldn't speak at all. Just blanked out.
The way I got over it was I guess just trying to be myself. I had to forget about what everybody else thought of me, sometimes even pretend they weren't there-it was just voices talking to me and me talking back. Then I could just try and be myself.
It's a kinda weird thing but then anything is coming from me. But whatever you end up doing, stick with who you are. You don't wanna end up acting your whole life, trying to be somebody you're not.