a friend of mine keeps pestering me to sleep with him.?

Question

i like him as a friend.and i really dont want to.
but i dont want to lose him as a friend.what am i to do?(we are both guys).

except sarah h,i've never done anything to lead him on as you say.

umm...you dont think i dont tell him no?lol

Answer 1

Yes, I know you tell him "NO" but that's what you're going to have to keep telling him. He sounds like he's going to keep pestering you until you do...or at worst try to catch you in a comprimising situation (such as you drunk off your behind). You already know what he's like and what he's capable of. The ball, my son, is really in your court. Say no and mean it. You may have to lose his freindship to keep your honour..cheesy I know but it essentially hits the nail on the head. Good luck.

Answer 2

If telling him no doesn't work, try writing him a letter putting everything you are feeling about him, your friendship and the situation. If he persists then perhaps you should put some distance between you because your friendship is unlikely to last under that kind of strain.

Answer 3

It sounds like your friend sees you as more than such and wants to bring the relationship to another level, which you obviously and clearly do not. If you have told him no repeatedly and he still doesn't get the hint, then the relationship, as far as he is concerned, has already died. he no longer sees you as a platonic pal and now finds you sexually attractive.
As you are obviously straight, consider the situation if your friend was female. If you had a female friend suddenly start pestering you for sex, would you give in? If so, why? if not, why? Are you turning down your friend because you ARE friends, or are yu turning him down because he is a GUY friend?

Answer 4

Be totally honest with him. Sit him down and say to him, look, we're good friends and I don't want to jeopardise anything we've got, so if you don't mind, please stop pestering me to sleep with you.

If this fails, you're going to have to ask yourself some hard questions, such as, do I really need this in my life right now and can I move on from this friendship? Hard, but true, cold facts of life. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

I have this kind of friend like you have now. Insisting to have sex with me while I cannot have sex with him at all, not even cuddling. Then I just simply told him the truth about my feeling to him. Assertive and completely sincere to him. And he was infuriated for some period of time because I kept telling him so. But now at the end we become really good friends. All he needs is just understanding inside his mind. Talk to him very open and honest and make him understand about your feeling.

Answer 6

Don't do it. If you are not interested in him sexually then you shouldn't do anything. If you do go through with it, the awkwardness afterwards could do more damage to the friendship compared to if you don't do anything. Just let your friend know that you are not interested but you want to remain friends. He'll eventually get the picture.

Answer 7

If you don't want to have sex with your friend, then you don't have to. Tell him nicely you love him as a friend and you want to keep it that way. If you fall out over this, then it shows how selfish he is!

Answer 8

Are you gay or straight?

If you are straight that is the ultimate reason

If you are gay, you just don't like him like that, don't make a mistake by lying with him. Did you like my Bible terminlogy?!

Whatever else happens don't if you don't want to, what kind of friend is he is he keeps pestering you about it? A good friend would not do that.

Answer 9

tell him if he forces the isue its actually sexuall harassment and then give him two choices either back off or you go to the cops

Answer 10

Just explain to him exactly how you feel, but that you would like to stay friends, if he cant ecept that then he really cant be a true friend and let him go out of your life.