my stepsister's best friend just died in a car crash, and she is so sad. there is a 4 year age difference between us, and i am younger. i dont know how to comfort her, what do i do?
2007-03-27 06:57:24 · 18 answers · asked by Kaitlin_Kay_:*)(*: 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
pray for and with her kaitlin. she needs lots of prayer! god bless you sweetheart!
2007-03-27 07:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen A LOT! Be there for her...even in silence. Get a scrapbook and paste various things in it. When she's up to it, ask for her opinion, but go slowly. It may help her, a tiny bit, to be distracted. Only time heals such wounds. Having someone who cares so much is very important. Tell her you love her and put your arms around her. She'll appreciate it more than you know. Later on, after a good deal of time has passed, don't be afraid to talk about her old friend. Memories can be sweet and bring a person 'back' in a certain way.
2007-03-27 14:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by buying a card and writing your thoughts inside (like "I'm so sorry for you and will do anything you need. Please talk to me if I can help"). Also, whenever you are around her, give her a hug (you don't always need words to convey feeling and caring and love). And ask your mom and dad if they know of anything that will help. When your stepsister is over the initial loss (after a few weeks have passed) you could offer to do something with a few friends in honor of her friend (if her friend like animals you could all volunteer at the local animal shelter, or if her friend liked reading you could hold a read-a-thon to raise money to go toward a scholarship in her friend's name - ask your parents for some ideas). Good luck and your stepsister is lucky to have you care so much for her. God Bless.
2007-03-27 14:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her her space. I don't know how close you two are but you have to test the waters in situations like this one. Talk with her and console her until she makes it known that you are trying too hard or doing too much. My girlfriend died in a car accident lately and all I wanted was time to myself at the first stages but then gradually I wanted friends and family because I realized that they are still alive so I need to cherish that fact, and cherish the time that I am able to be with them. I hope that I helped and I want to tell you that you are a great sister.
2007-03-27 14:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know how much you love her, and that no matter what you will be there for her, have patience because sometimes they keep their pain inside and everything we say they might take it the wrong way and act different. So be patient and let her know that you have her back....
2007-03-27 14:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Monica A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that you are always there for her in case she wants to talk. She might not be ready yet, but eventually she might wanna open up to you. Make sure you are gentle with what you say. Good luck, and things will get better, trust me.
2007-03-27 14:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥KP♥MH♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age that matters it's the level of comfort you give
2007-03-27 14:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to her when she needs to talk. There is nothing you can say that will equate with what she is feeling. Let her talk and know you are available to talk.
2007-03-27 14:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. If she is crying go up to her and put your arm around her. Just show her that your there for her and that you care.....that should comfort her more than anything else.
2007-03-27 14:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. You don't even have to talk, just be there if and when she needs you. Let her cry, let her grieve. Tell her it'll be o.k. Good Luck.
2007-03-27 14:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by geehaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be their for her. You really can't do anything or say anything to make her feel better at this point. So just be their for her when she needs you!
2007-03-27 14:01:10 · answer #11 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋