I have been in a long distance relationship with my g/f for 5 1/2 years now. i live in michigan and she lives in minesotta. We see eachother every other few months or so. Now that i am in college, and i have a great paying job its hard to see her. The goal was for me to move to MN but its just hard to drop my job, health benefits, and school. I mean i love her but its real hard for me to move. i love her and everything but i just dont know what to do. i did move to mn for a yr right when i got out of high school. it was great seeing her everyday, but financially it was real tough. plus i truly missed my family and freinds back home in MI. At this point we are still dating and we will continue to do so, but what do i do? i am young only 21 but i have everyhting goin for me here. i asked her if she wanted to move here she says no. She also has a seizure disorder. When she has this her parents or relatives need to be there to answer questions based on family history to seiasure probs
2007-03-27 06:49:29 · 4 answers · asked by nick b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am going to be truthful with you and you might not like what am going to say. But here goes. For one you sound like a really good guy in all but this relationship is not going to work. Long distance relationship don't work. Your human and she human and where made to feel loved, touched by someone and you can't get that over a phone or letter, you know what I mean. Your only 21 and your going in doing the right thing as far as your future goes and you shouldn't leave it. And as for her she won't move for whatever reason, like her seizure probs. And a way you can't blame her, she still like a little girl she scared to leave her parents in case she has a seizure and her parents are not around to help her. And that's where that stays. Your really caught up in a catch 22. It's either or. And when your realize that you and her can't be of course it's going to hurt. But you need to ask yourself is this a healthy relationship for you and her. I think it's not. Your both wasting your time. It's time you move on. Do you know what dating is? Dating is finding that healthy match. Spending time with that person and your not doing that with her. Just because you two write, by computer or letter, phone, etc. that's not spending time together. You can't grow on that. And don't give up your job your only 21 and you got everything going for you right where you are. She don't what to be a part of that, because she to scared to leave her parents. Her parents are not going to be there forever and right now she not willing to grow up so you need to move on. Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger she wrote a great book called ten stupid things men do to mess up their lives. I think you should read it. Its easy reading and right to the point. You take care
2007-03-27 12:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think really long and hard about where you see yourself in the future..If you tried moving there andit didnt work out for you then what makes you believe you will be able to do so again?? You dont want to lose your job and everything that you have only to find out a year later that you cant do it..if she is not willing to move for you I dont see a ay that you can last...a long distance relationship isnt meant to last forever, so maybe you should consider moving on and find someone a little closer to you.
2007-03-27 06:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my opinion.
I think you should talk to her about moving to where you are. I don't really think her parents or relatives NEED to be there when her seizures kick in. You just be sure to get all that information before she moves in and if the hospital needs to hear it from the parents, give them a call.
I don't think you should give up everything you've worked for so far.
I wish you the best.
2007-03-27 07:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by princess526_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheer up
2007-03-27 06:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by adonis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋