If you wanted to socialise but have know one to go out with out feeling uncomfortable etc.?

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If you wanted to socialise but have know one to go out with out feeling uncomfortable etc.?
i like going out and doing thing but but the people i know dont go out much or have boyfriends ect. (it feels like hell will freeze over before they will do somthing.)
ive gone out to places by myself like plays, pubs, movies and festables but if you dont know anyone it horrable and uncomfortable. Also ive attracted to wrong sort of commpany because of it.(i had to get bar staff to call me a taxi and make a quick escape)

also i began thinking of people who dont go out because of fear of looking stuped of being alone.
todays world is not as socal anymore so how can single people or people in a new eniroment do for a night out without feeling uncomfortable and danger and meet people who want the same.

Answer 1

volunteer your time to visit people who can
not get out...invalids,,young and old...you can have
phone visits or visit in person...somepeople are stuck in
life and very lonely...i do this as a volunteer and it makes
me feel very sociable
Also..maybe be a Big Brother or Sister...???

Answer 2

I understand. I like being single, but when I go out alone some people will think "Ah, the poor girl, she has nobody" and then some might try to set me up with a man. I want to meet friends but not boyfriends and some mistake me as desperate. I agree with the first answer- become involved with charity work. I am a member of a Lions club and we all do great work in our city which makes my heart warm, and I've met many people. If you are young, like a teenager or young adult, you can join a Leo club, which is the same as a Lions but only for youngsters. See the link below.

Join other clubs like a book club or Friends of the Theatre. Many theatre have clubs for people who see plays, musicals and ballets and they offer discounts on the ticket price plus a way to meet others who are like you. Art galleries are nice places to meet other people, especially special exhibitions. I don't know if you're religious or Christian, but there are very good people in Bible Study groups, churches often offer social events, and the same applies to mosques and synagogues (remember that God is your best Friend anyway). Take a course in something like art, cooking or whatever, a great way to start discussions with your fellow classmates, since you're already interested in the same thing. And how about a hiking club, or mountaineering, something that can keep you fit and friendly?

There also may be some sites for friendship only, like dating sites, but only for those looking for friends. But just be careful when you meet someone- always meet in public. Good luck. Why not replace your boring 'friends' with the new interesting ones?

Answer 3

What about inviting neighbors or people from work to your place for a dinner or social gathering. Ask them to bring a couple of friends. Maybe who they seem to be at work or at a passing in the hall at your apartment really aren't who they are in a social setting, And getting to know them in an intimate environment will show you who they really are. Or have a pampered chef or another at home party, women love to go to them and then you can branch out from there.
Here are a few ways you can meet new people:

*What about going to the gym.
*Joining a local dance or aerobics class.
*Take a class at your local college.
*Go to local sporting events
*Museums
*If you have a dog take a different route to walk them or get a dog and walk them in the park.
*Maybe take up a sport

Hope this helps!!

Answer 4

You must have some interests, be it sports, creativity, history, find something that you really are interested in, then find other LIKE MINDED people, out of them, there is bound to be someone that you can knock around with.

The world is full of lonely people who are hoping to find friends. we all think we are on our own, unique, we aren't - good lord you have the entire world at the tip of your fingers, just get into some chat rooms.

And remember one friend has other friends, you have to make people beleive you like them and you are interested in them. We are all so INSECURE most of the time. Wishing you luck!

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Answer 5

i agree.......