My family hates my brother in law. They have never liked him from day one. Both of my parents were so angry that my sister decided to marry him that they both refused to attend my sister's wedding. Now they are plotting to get him out of the family.
My brother in law has made sly little sexual remarks to me over the years. I have just ignored it for the most part. Now my parents want me to use it to my advantage. My parents want me to sleep with my brother in law. They want me to get him to sleep with me while they stand in the closet videotaping the whole thing. They are then going to show the video to my sister in hopes that she will leave him. My parents have even convinced my husband that this is a good idea.
My parents have said that as a loving sister, I should be willing to do whatever it takes to help my sister. And if sleeping with her husband is what it takes then so be it. Are they right? Should I really be forced into sleeping with my brother in law??
2007-03-27 06:34:18 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please dont do that....I know you love your sister, but this isn't way to do it. He'll burn his own butt in good time, but you need to wait. If you suspect he's cheating find cheaters and have them follow him. That is safer for you and your relationship with your sister, she may leave him if you did but she may never forgive you too.
2007-03-27 06:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 75 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY !!!!
I'm sorry but this is really messed up !!
First of all , no matter how they convince your husband it is necessary for you to sleep with your brother in law , he will eventually resent it and your marriage will be at risk.Your sister will hold you responsible so you lose your relationship with her too. Do you want that? AND it is utterly sick that your parents would watch you having sex.There is NO reason good enough that this should ever happen.
They are completely twisted in their thinking !!
Secondly, and on a more normal level , your parents need to respect your sisters decision to marry this guy. They don't live with him . This is her choice as an adult , not theirs , they have no business meddling in her life this way. If he is a bad person , she will see it on her own. Maybe she married him to rebel against your parents or just to put some distance between herself and the family.
This is not normal behavior within a family . Your parents are toxic and abusive. No matter how much you agree that this guy is wrong for your sister it's not your place to interfere. It's your place to be there for her when and if it all falls apart.That's what sisters do.
You need to stand your ground and refuse to take part in this. Obviously you think so too or you wouldn't be asking. Trust that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach , It's there for a reason !!
2007-03-27 07:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is messed up. I don't see how it would help anyone if you slept with your brother in law, as a matter of fact, in so doing you become worse than him. And you would have to question what kind of husband you have to allow you to sleep with another man under ANY circumstances. Your parents should be ashamed of themselves for even suggesting such a thing. You know, not everyone is meant to like all of their in-laws, blood is thicker than water but you have to have respect for why she decides to stay with the man, there must be love involved. Does he mistreat her, does he cheat on her? If not, and the only thing you have to go on is that you don't like him, or he's made sexual comments (something that does happen, though annoying, may not mean anything other than he is inappropriate at times) shouldn't be grounds for him not being good husband to her. So far, you have not made an arguement as to why your brother in law shouldn't be married to your sister other than you all don't like her. This whole thing is pretty "Jerry Springer-like" don't you think? I think you all should just mind your business and live your own lives and stay out of theirs.
That's my opinion on the matter. You can take it for what you think it's worth.
2007-03-27 07:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't finish reading your question and stopped at "my brother in law has made sly little sexual remarks...".
DO NOT, and I repeat DO NOT sleep with him!!!! You will lose the trust of your sister whom you are trying to protect as she will look at it this way "You never did like him either any more than mom and dad and you will try to do anything to tear us apart....etc." PLUS if he is a loser as your family may think, he will blame you. IT will back fire!
Two, if I was your husband, I would say you do this, and I am gone. I don't care what your motives are, a married woman shouldn't sleep with anyone else but her husband. I cannot believe your parents would even ask this of you. The more you and your parents try to trap your brother-in-law, you will lose your sister period. Let someone else not a family member or in-law trap your brother in law. Your sister needs your support but doing it this way is underhanded and not a behavior befitting a loving family who cares.
2007-03-27 07:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't have to sleep with your imaginary brother-in-law, just like you shouldn't have to sleep with your imaginary daughter's imaginary boyfriend, or with your imaginary husband's imaginary boss. Really, you're just re-cycling your old material - that alone should be a clue that you should stop the nonsensical postings.
Now, please find another venue for your ridiculous questions - too many people are actually putting time, energy and emotion into answering them. Ask yourself why you post such fiction about breast-feeding, incest, pedophilia/child abuse, adultery, "piss and pooh" (fortunately, most of those have been removed, but then they only ever received a handful of responses, not the 50 plus responses you no doubt crave), and other "shocking" topics - is it cutting edge art? A social commentary? A psychology experiment? A need for attention? A cry for help from an abused childhood? A need to feel important and clever by duping strangers? Pranks by a bored latchkey child? Or? Once you determine why you are doing this, it will be easier for you to find a more suitable outlet.
The people that are annoyed/offended by your outrageous questions far outweigh the few who tell you how funny you are. YA does not seem to care about your postings, but if the majority of answerers all gave you a dollar, would you stop?
2007-03-27 20:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wth?!? are you serious. i'm sure there is better ways of getting around this. it might help your sister leave her husband, but it will also drive her away from the family. why would family plot such a horrible scheme? why not record or videotape when he is making these sexual remarks to you. by sleeping with your brother in law can not be healty for the family, including your sister and husband. im sorry but its a bad idea!!!!!
2007-03-27 06:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by kc321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really mind your own business and stay out of your sister's marriage. If you have sex with your brother in law, how would that make YOU any different than HIM? Just because your PARENTS encourage it or your husband knows about it doesn't make you any different.....in fact, it makes you just as bad, if not worse. Sounds to me like your whole family has a severe case of emotional immaturity / manipulation issues!
2007-03-27 06:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm no. That is messed up. I don't think it's even right that your parents are considering this. It could really backfire if her husband tries to say you talked him into it or somethin. Then you will have problems with your sister. You should let your sister know all the things her husband has been saying to you. She will either believe you or not, but at least then you'll know you're being completely truthful with her. Good luck
2007-03-27 06:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by ♥KP♥MH♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents want to hide in the closet while they video tape you getting it on with your brother in law? Maybe you need to get out of the family? Your husband needs his head checked if he thinks this is a good idea as well. I think you need to tell your sister and her husband of the crazy lengths your family is willing to go to so that they will break up. As a loving sister, you should accept her choice of a husband and welcome him into the family unless he is hurting your sister. Do this and you will be the one that hurts her, bad idea...
2007-03-27 06:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the matter with you people? Your sister has a right to be the director of her own life. The fact her family does not enjoy his company does not give any of you the right to decide what is best for her. If her husband is not for you then so be it. Stay away from him. Be available for her when she reaches out in the future. Provide support and quit manipulating the inevitable.
2007-03-27 07:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real I feel so sorry for you having such dumba** parents. Your sister is a grown woman. Your parents don't need to go through all of this just to prove that your brother in law is a bad guy. You sleeping with him would prove that he is a jerk but it will also show your sister that you are a dirty slut...you don't want that do you? If your bro in law is exhibiting inppropriate behavior towards you then you need to talk to her about it.
2007-03-27 06:49:09 · answer #11 · answered by KoKo.Licious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋