I have 2 kids with previos husband, he has 3 kids with current wife... i am married and have 2 kids with current husband.. ex moved with his family to another state... he sees the kids still.. I am so upset because I dont get child support.. he doesnt work! he is on dissability.. I get so mad because whenever he wants to see the kids I always say yes!! And I just dont think its fair that I let him see the kids whenever he and his wife want to and when it comes to the financial responsilbility which is only 225.00 courts have told him to pay monthly he canno do. what can you guys advise me. He doesnt work he is a stay at home dad. and anytime the kids need things I always have to go the the new wife to ask for money and I am tired of havin g to go to her.. so I asked them if thaey can just give me 200.00 a month for boys.. but they told me thay cannot afford that right now... but yet they want to take the kids on their vacation on fathers day.. their lil half sisters b-day.. holidays
2007-03-27 06:24:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyone deals with situations like that differently. I myself got tired of the father of my 2 children pulling that crap. He would continuously give me excuses why he couldn't pay child support. He had excuses why he couldn't keep the kids on the 4 lousy days a month he has them and believe me in the 5yrs we've been seperated he's never taken them a day more.I couldn't afford a lawyer so I went to the local state department and filed on him. He has to pay $390.00 a month and if he doesn't his "owe" amount keeps building up and they charge interest. The state takes my child support payments and puts it into my bank acct. automatically. Even though he's married. If they file together (IRS)I can get half of that. Which I will. again. The way I see it is we BOTH had the children. Yes I am married but my husband didn't give the children life so why should he have to take full responsibility for it. At one point I quit letting him see the kids because of his lack of payments. I hated it but If we were going to take full responsibility then there was no need for him to be around. Like I said just my opinion many ppl would disagree. By the way it would be his responsibility to find transportation to see the kids not yours. Good luck. Isn't it amazing how they have money for their own entertainment but your household can go without. By the way, the wife needs to butt out.
2007-03-27 12:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is a legal requirement, not an 'if-he-feels-like-it' option. Report his payments (or lack of) to the child support division of the court of family services. Keep careful track of every payment - keep a notebook.
Meamwhile, keep to the schedule of the court regarding visitation. Don't allow any extra visits, and don't cut him short.
Keep a notebook (diary) noting ALL visitations, and what the children report back to you. (vacations, etc. )
The legal system will work, but you must PUSH it and be Patient!
Your kids will be sane if you are matter-of-fact, sane, level headed, and structured about their visits, etc. The money thing must be taken care of- I don't care if he's on disability- he must pay for his children out of that.
Don't get sad, get mad! Make the law enforce his child support.
PS Don't ask his new wife for anything for your kids- how humiliating!
2007-03-27 14:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by tigarlilly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a court order says he has to pay 225.00 a month then he has to pay no matter what.Disability or not.
You have to get this enforced now.Get to a lawyer or the courts and go after him.
They are his children and he has to care for them.If he can go on vacation then he can support his kids.
You've been too easy on him by letting him get away with it.Sounds like one of those "dead beat" dad's to me.
2007-03-27 13:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what the laws of the state you were divorced in you may be eligible to receive something directly from his disability payments. Contact a reputable attorney in your area to pursue this further. Contact your local Bar Association or Lawyer's Association for a lawyer who specializes in matrimonial issues. Your ex-husband has as much responsibility to his children with you as he does to the children he lives with and I think he has forgotten that. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-27 14:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think when your ex got married again, his wife assume his responsibilities, so get a lawyer and find out on child support, if not, he is court order to paid, so go Thur the state and push the issue.
2007-03-27 13:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by jwj60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋