if i am only 16 and pregnant, can my mother make me get an abortion or is it my choice? does what she say really matter if i wanted to keep it ? its an emotional situation, she had me when she was 16 and almost aborted me at 6 months!, im so thankful she didnt, i dont want to abort my child just because she says i have to. what do i do ?
2007-03-27 06:20:01 · 25 answers · asked by idontevenknow 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-27 06:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she can force you, but maybe you should talk to her and discuss this with her. Having a baby is a huge responsibility and will change your life. You mother wants the best for you and does not want you to go through the hard times that maybe she went through. Talk to her let her know how you feel, and then listen to her and why she wants you to do this. Maybe discussing this with each other will help the both of you come to the right decision that's best for you and your situation. Don't listen to people that might scare you, because for some, having an abortion is the worst thing that a person can do. IMO, You need to do what is best for your life and your future, if having a baby is it, then so be it, but if it is not then you and you only has to make that decision. Having children is a very difficult job and make sure you are 100% about it. You are very young and once you have a child, you will have to grow up, and being suddenly forced to be an adult at such a young age will be very hard. Just being able to support this child will be a challenge and it will be your job to raise this child not your mothers. If you are against abortion, you should also think about adoption, unless you are 100% sure you want to do this and are able to handle it, because it will change your life. You will love this baby no matter what if you have it, but your opportunities ahead will change for you, it is just something to think about. But before anything you really need to talk to your mother. In the long run, it is your body and your choice and no I don't believe she can force you to have a abortion.
2007-03-27 13:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, this sounds like such a tough situation. I would like to say "more power to you" for wanting to follow through with having this baby. It will indeed be an incredible and challenging journey, but there is nothing better than the gift of a child. Your mother CANNOT force you to have an abortion, that is your choice and your choice alone.
You may want to talk to your mother about why she didn't abort her pregnancy with you. Explain how although you made a mistake, you want to live up to the consequences and take care of your baby. If she's still unsupportive, then find someone who will support you because that is really important.
You may want to call a local crisis hotline or go to your local planned parenthood to get further information on your rights and your prenatal care. You do want to make sure you see a dr. soon so that you can get vitamins and information about the proper diet for a pregnant woman.
It's possible your mom wants you to have an abortion because she doesn't want to put you through the rough life she had at your age; having a baby is certainly not easy! If you decide to keep your baby, understand that you will be giving up a lot but that it will be very rewarding in the end. If you would like to talk more or would just like someone who is supportive, please email me at mama2kaydence@yahoo.com or go to this website: momtomomchat.com. I would love to help you in any way I can, and that website is wonderful (they have a teenage mom forum too)!! Best of luck!
2007-03-27 13:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kellie R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also agree with the first poster.
Your body, your choice all the way. To have sex, go through the pregnancy and become a teenage mother (which is hard in society to be).
She can not force you; however, I do have a feeling you will be on your own. Due to no support of the pregnancy could inflict no support of a newborn child.
Need to go to some teen help centers for pregnant teens (which your doctor can locate them in your area) and begin the process of support, assisted living and place to stay if so. Discuss this with other family members, if any and most important, keep yourself healthy and in school!
I do know she doesn't want you to live a hard life so young with a child as she did with you. That might be part of her reasoning for the abortion; however, you are the choice maker in that. It will be a bumpy road, but you can make it through. Just try to stop the pattern of repeated cycle.
She had you at 16. You having a baby at 16.......do you want your baby to have a baby at 16 too? So, think about the cycle that is created and what measures you will have as a new mother, to protect your child and help your child.
2007-03-27 13:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY! Your mom CAN NOT tell you what to do in this situation.
When you become pregnant, no matter what age you are, you become an adult i guess you could say. She cannot tell you whether or not you can keep it. THIS IS YOUR DECISION and YOUR DECISION ALONE!
She might fight you on this or something but if worse comes to worse there are ways you can take her to court and tell the courts that you dont want your mom in control of your life anymore. I forgot what its called. But anyway, what they do is they have a court hearing and if you tell them that you are 16 and pregnant and you want to keep the baby but your mom wants you to ABORT tell them you would like for her to be cut off basically. She cannot say what you can and cannot do anymore. Basically you are asking them to consider you an adult at 16 instead of 18. It has been done and the girl who wanted that won. But it would require you to get a job and so forth.
You can get on medicaid. They are very helpful to single moms. If the daddy runs off seek child support. Do it anyway. IT HELPS A LOT TO. You can get on food stamps, and if you get a job and its during the day you can get daycare vouchers from them as well. This makes daycare FREE to you. As you get older and you move out and if you are still on hard times....there is free housing. Basically you find an apartment or duplex or something and get it set up and see someone about free housing. All you would have to pay is utilities.
The docs will go by what you say not your mom. And if you dont want your mom with you, the docs will have to obey your wishes b/c you would be considered an adult the second you get pregnant.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
2007-03-27 13:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Even though you are a minor, no one can force you to have an abortion. It is your decision. My opinion would be to call your local planned parenthood, if there is one in your area and get some advice. Also, the whole thing with being emancipated when you have a baby is not try, that is something that you have to file for. Good luck!
2007-03-27 13:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Law 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you always make it clear to any doctor or nurse that you want to have this baby they will not give you an abortion. What are you going to do if she stops supporting you? I hope you are planning for that just in case she does react that way. I had my son at 17 but I was lucky enough that my boyfriend (hubby) wanted to marry me and my family was supportive. Good luck, I know what you are gonna be going through.
(I am glad she didnt abort you at 6 months either, I am so glad they banned late term abortions... they are gruesome and cruel.)
2007-03-27 13:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she can't make you have an abortion. And she shouldn't even try. She doesn't want you to suffer like she did and she can't see her way clear that you are much happier alive and so will this baby be. You can consider other options like giving the baby up for adoption. If you do keep it, she may force you to live somewhere else. Where is the father of this baby? What you do need to do is contact social services and see if they can help you with options. Bethany Christian Services is also a great resource. In our town we have a crisis pregnancy center. If you have something like that, too, please avail yourself of it. Good luck.
2007-03-27 13:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother can not force you to abort your child even if you are not the legal age. She however can force you to go to another home or put you in foster care. She can tell the state that she is not going to be legally responsible for your child. She can pretty much force you to give it up for adoption if she is not willing to help you with it and you have no other alternitive legal way to get funds for the child. I have no idea where you are from or what your nationality is however you can get more information from me if you email me.
I wish you luck on your upcoming pregnancy.
Please do not abort the child.
This may be a 'Choice'
but it is your choice.
No hospital in the world is going to listen to your mother telling them to kill your child.
-Mother of 3, Previous Runaway-
2007-03-27 13:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She cannot force you to have an abortion although she can make you so miserable that you might consider doing so just to make it stop (it's called family pressure). When you have a situation like this, I would recommend calling Social Services in your county for advice and referral.
While I understand your mother's issues, ultimately, she's not the one who has to live with the decision. You are.
2007-03-27 13:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OMGosh... im so sorry your in this situation with your mom! the same thing happened to my mom. she was 16 yrs old when she got pregnant with me and my grandma said she will have an abortion. my mother refused! it was her right and its yours too! good luck!
2007-03-27 13:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by leelee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋