My brother is 22 years old, he lives with my mom and older brother and doesn't work. That would be fine if he didn't have a 2 yr. old. He was working but then decided that he couldn't go to work anymore, he has his own car but he would take my moms car everynight and go sit at someone elses house instead of going to work, he has stolen my moms and older brothers credit card to put gas in his car he has stolen my mothers jewelry and pawned it. We know he smokes marijuana but I have never seen anyone act this way off of marijuana addiction. I enrolled him in school but he has not been in the past few weeks. My mother is at her wits end and we don't know what to do with him or how we can help because talking obviously is not working for him. He picks his son up on a weekly basis but he nevers buys him anything when he does have money and when he comes to visit me and my mom have to entertain the baby because my brother is soo irritable with him. What can we do???
2007-03-27 06:11:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tough love is needed in this situation and act upon that quickly. Give him 2 weeks to find a job or tell mamma to put his butt out and do not let him back in. If he does get a job and stays make him pay back your mom and your brother for the theft, make him pay rent, make him pay for food. Quit enabling him, life is good for him. He is 22, he has a son (mom has a grandson, you a nephew) and he needs to parent up. If he brings his son over-don't entertain, give him pointers....tell him (sons name) needs to go potty-YOU better take him, (sons name) is hungry-why don't you make him a sandwich? He must be made accountable for his wrong doings and he must be made accountable to his son. You and your family are enabling him to be this way. Can I move in please?????? Note: people do not act this way on marijuana....I think your brother knows how to work you and Mom. Give him deadlines and stick to em!
2007-03-27 06:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's just marijuana that he's smoking, dear. Unfortunately, it sounds like he might be doing something more along the lines of either opium ( a depressant that makes you act REALLY lazy) or a really hard core drug like crack (you chill out while you smoke it and stay high, when you crash you start to flip out). But definitely, he's being a fiend for some kind of drug.
Think about it...
The reason he stole the credit cards to buy "gas" probably had little to do with gas (unless he's driving to his dealer's place) and more to do with things he's bought other than gas that are more sellable.
The jewelry was pawned because it's valuable. Hardcore drugs are not cheap.
Get him into rehab, and find his drugs. Check the kid out, too.
2007-03-27 14:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by minerva779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody needs to wake up! The guy is too old to be pulling this crap on the rest of you and you all have been enabling him. Ever hear of intervention? Get some help, I don't think the police will do except on drug charges, but there is help out there and NO, his child is not guilty and should not suffer on account of his father's stupidity. Rescue the little kid and see what you can do to put an end to your brother's foolishness. You say he's "been acting strange lately"? I beg to differ, this has been strange for too long !
2007-03-27 13:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by forlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now your he is probably going through something. To me he sounds like he needs a role model to be there for him. Also you guys are babying him. If you keep letting him do the same things over and over he will never grow up. He may still be found dead somewhere or still living with your mom in the next 20 more years. So what i am saying to you try to make him do the things that he needs to do around the house. Your mom needs to come down hard on him b-cuz he isn't showing his son the proper care that he needs. He probably is acting strange b-cuz he maybe about to do something very stupid to get himself in some trouble or maybe he is just curious about something else.
2007-03-27 13:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sasay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At your brothers age, and living at home still he should be in school, and working. Your mother should have called the police on him when he stole the credit cards, and pawned her jewelry. By her allowing him to continue to be under her roof is saying to him that "It's okay to treat me like sh*t, steal from me, and not pay bills or rent."
She needs to put a stop to this like NOW. He will only get worse!! Why?? Because you guys are allowing this to happen... People will only treat you the way you let them.
2007-03-27 13:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by thatprettykitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is on harder drugs than just marijuana.
Either way, he is clearly an irresponsible idiot and not to be trusted with the early development of a 2 year old.
If you want to do everyone a favor then call Social Services and report his behavior.
That is what your tax dollars are paying them for anyway.
You are not doing him or his son any favors by ignoring the problem.
2007-03-27 13:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by The Dest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is the monther.she is responsible for you children..not you. SHe should call the police and ask them for help with him...she should kick out the brother with the 2 yr old and tell him to grow up. It is called tuff love..if these things are not done...the lives iinvolved will be negative and painful until this is done and will get 1ooo times worse!!! It is sweet you want to help but its your mother who needs to stand up and be a mother!! AND there is tons off help out there for everyone with ANY problems...........
2007-03-27 13:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your brother needs some tough love....kick him out and make him grow up, having a son obviously didn't...do it now, before the kid really will remember and maybe the kid will end up with a decent dad; besides, do you really want a druggie around to steal everything if that's what is really happening?
2007-03-27 13:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is into other drugs. I would think about maybe a rehab for him. things will only get worst with a drug addict i saw what my grandmother went through with my uncle it's not a healthy for u or your family good luck
2007-03-27 13:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by givemesum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough love. have him arrested for drugs and he will be forced into a program. Meanwhile, you can take care of the kids and make sure they get proper care.
2007-03-27 13:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋