Scenario: One woman in a lesbian couple has proof that one of her partners friends is trying to "steal" her (proof includes suggestive emails, disrespectful text messages)...so she asks her partner to cut all ties to this friend. Is this too controlling? Would the girlfriend be wrong if she did NOT cut off all ties? And if the girlfriend verbally AGREED to end the friendship but still communicated with the "friend" every now & then....is she wrong for this?
2007-03-27 05:59:53 · 9 answers · asked by Raynebow_Diva 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay, if you want to stop someone from trashing your relationship it is most certainly NOT wrong at all. If they agree to stop the friendship but communicate anyway, it is rather rude and dishonest- but you aren't going to break up simply because of her stupid friend? Confront the person with the proof, tell them to CEASE AND DESIST and get on with your happy, loving life. ^-^ That is my advice to you, do with it what you will. Enjoy :P
2007-03-27 06:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on whether the girlfriend is responding to those cues in a manner that only encourages the thief, or if she is just being polite to that person. Some might consider asking to cut ties with someone as too controlling, but then it always takes two to tango. Apparently, the woman in question here should try to find out the level and content of interaction the girlfriend has with the stealer. Ultimately, if the girlfriend chooses to be swayed by the other person's sleight of hand, she does not deserve the love of this woman.
2007-03-27 13:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is a bit "controlling."
I think an appropriate suggestion would be to ask the girlfriend to ask the friend to stop her attempts to "steal" her away.
If the girlfriend is not open to this, I believe a longer and more in depth discussion would be advised.
Find out why the girlfriend is continuing this relationship with the supposed friend. Find out if the girlfriend is initiating these contacts.
Find out if there's something that the girlfriend is upset about in the current relationship that is driving her to seek out the friend's attention.
Find out if there is some way to repair the damage.
2007-03-27 13:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can ask her to cut off all ties but that doesn't mean she's gonna cut off all ties with her. the fact wheather she chooses to continue communicating, being friends with or being more than friends with this girl in the end is out of your hands. also she might completely stop communicating with her without you doing nothing about it. i also think people are very different in these kind of situations. my friend prevented her boyfriend from sending messages to this girl my forcing him to change his phonenumber and she also had his password online and completely controlled him in everyway and forced him to end it. AND guess what he liked the fact she cared so much to go through all the trouble and they are engaged now. but also there are people who you cannot control and if you even try they will hate you for it. but i don't know which one your girlfriend is.
2007-03-27 13:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's an issue of trust. Does woman one trust woman two? If so, she needn't worry about the friend. But, woman one should be weary of this friend. She is a friend, and would know what to say to get woman two thinking things. That said, woman one shouldn't push too hard, or she may drive her girl into another woman's arms.
2007-03-27 18:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is controlling but not wrong at all if the person said they would stop tlkin to this other person thats tryin to steal then still tlks to her then thats a little dishonest but they were friends once and she still prolly likes her as a friend but as for u i would tell the gurl u have proof on to stop cuz ur love is stronger than her interference! :3
2007-03-27 13:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would not be too controlling, but I would think they need to talk about the friend
2007-03-27 16:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it is controlling...you cant control who you talk to they`ll most likely end up leaving you because your trying to control their lfe
2007-03-27 15:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by ღ 3SA sL33PY CaNT B3 sToPP3dღ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't trust her.....
2007-03-27 13:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋