We have been married only a little over two weeks. I enjoy sex very much, however, because we have been having sex once or twice a day, I became somewhat sore inside. The last time we made love it hurt me really bad, so I asked him to stop. He said I was leaving him hanging and that I didn't love him. I told him that I just needed to heal a couple of days then we could start again.We got into a big fight. Did I do wrong?
2007-03-27 05:51:38 · 53 answers · asked by mizzgrizz01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is wrong, but you could always suck his member instead
2007-03-27 05:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Molly323 5 · 2⤊ 6⤋
There's nothing wrong with stopping if it hurts! If he feels like he's being left hanging, then he's being coercive. If it's that important to you for him to be sexually satisfied, there are other means to acheive this end than just intercourse. But a mature male in any relationship should have enough consideration to stop doing something if it hurts. Tell him you'll make it up to him in a couple days when you're feeling better. If the shoe were on the other foot and he had a bunch of raw spots, he wouldnt be so willing to perform either.
2007-03-27 05:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely your husband that's in the wrong. Even my own husband agrees with that!
You explained the situation clearly enough. Your sex life has started out well and hopefully it will stay that way but I think that if your husband keeps flying off the handle and being totally insensitive it will push you too far away.
What will happen when you have a baby?
I know from experience that it takes quite a while to heal and the last thing you need after having a baby is hassle over sex.
You did absolutely nothing wrong.
Kathy
xxxxxx
2007-03-27 06:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by kat2007 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think you are in the wrong. Guys don't understand how painful a women can get. Try to explain to him that you want to have sex but if you keep having sex while it hurts your only going to get worse and could get infection. I'm sure he would not want that to happen. When you feel better try lots of lube and maybe a different position can help. Meanwhile there are other things you can do that are just as satisfying till your healed.
2007-03-27 06:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon,
There is only one thing you did wrong, You didn't tell the insensitive SOB that you were sore before he , er, ... got his dander up.
Did you tell him? I can' t believe a newly-wed would be that insensitive. I've got an Idea. Let him see first hand. Your natural lubrication stops when you get close to the moment that makes it all worthwhile. That's to increase the friction.
Alas, when you get there too often, too much friction can scrape you raw. Tell him that. It'll make his ego inflate, like he needs anything to inflate.
Most of all keep yourself clean down there. Infections are not fun and not healthy for either of you. Use some KY jelly to heal up.
2007-03-27 06:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe your husband loves you but he doesn't understand that females are totally made different from men. There is a misunderstanding on his part he need to know that your body will take some time (short time) re-cooperate from the love making, and that marriage is a whole package and not just one area. Let him blow off steam - you apologize for your outburst and you both sit down and talk about this area of your marriage.
2007-03-27 06:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have done other things: 1. hand job 2. oral 3. anal to help him out. Blue balls not a fun thing to leave a man with a hard on should be criminal!!! A woman wouldnt know about this!! Do I think your both wrong yup he was wrong for being insensitive towards your needs and same goes for you. Cant leave the man with blue balls!!! So kiss and make up be happy enjoy your love!!!!
2007-03-27 06:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is kind of wrong, but not really b/c if he is hurting you then he should know that his penis is a nice size! Most men thrill off a woman hurting b/c their penis may be too big. But, he does have to see where you are coming from also. He needs to let you heal, but in the mean time you can always perform oral sex on him.
*Remember, you are suppose to please your husband*
2007-03-27 06:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't even have to read the question to answer this one.
Your a newly wed asking for answers on the web instead of talking to your husband. Go talk to your husband, I'm sure out of the heat of the moment he'll be more receptive.
OK now to actually look at the question.
Your not wrong, but you should really try not to begin a sexual act and then not follow through. Talk to him about, and figure out how to keep having that wild and crazy newly wed sex without hurting yourself. May I suggest lube, and perhaps maybe just oral sometimes.
2007-03-27 05:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by cybereagle07 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You have every right to not have sex if you do not WANT to, it doesn't mean that you don't love him, it means that you are a human being too. Tell him that when he is left hanging that he has a pair of hands that can do the job as well. And tell him to grow up and stop acting like a spoiled child.
2007-03-27 06:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No he needs to be understanding its you that is accepting "something" inside you and it is you that is feeling it. He should be happy that you want sex that much and give you a break every once and a while. Try to give him pleasure in other ways that can satisfy him til you heal that should help. Good luck
2007-03-27 06:46:59 · answer #11 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋