could you live with your ex?

Question

Hello i've got a huge problem!! i'm 7 weeks pregnant, had a stillborn at 26 weeks, & one living child all by my now ex Nick, we've split up & are considering living together, till i've had the baby, mainly because i couldnt afford to live on my own & raise our 2 year old son. we dont love one another anymore, but are concidering living together as house mates till the baby born & i can return to work. so what do you think could it work as housemates or will it end in trouble. i'm happy if he meets another woman, i'd be fine with that, i'd even let her sleep over, i wont be jelious. so would it work.

Answer 1

If you can handle living with your ex and vice versa, I don't see it as being a problem.

I, personally, though, would rather stab myself with a rusty spoon than to live with MY ex. lol

Answer 2

It will work if you are committed to being friends and there will not be any jealousy.
I have had ex's that I would set up with other girls, shortly after we would break up. It just depends. Sometimes passionate love grows to be friendship love, in my cases that was the way it was.
I could have completely lived with a couple of these guys watching them date othe woman, and then there have been ex's where I know it wouldnt work. So if you really think you BOTH are ok with it, then go for it. It might be best for your children.
Just be prepared though, the new girlfriend(s) may not be so understanding and there may be problems there.
Take care and best wishes with everything.

Answer 3

Regardless of whether you or he would/would not be jealous, this really is not a healthy environment to raise your child. How would you explain the fact that daddy and you, while living together, don't love each other that way and see other people? It may be too early to consider that question, but really this raises so many other issues.

Answer 4

I don't see a problem with it- until you mentioned letting people sleep over. That's not healthy for children to see at all. If you need to start dating then I suggest you split up and see other people only when you are not watching the child.

Answer 5

okay if you really dont like your ex anymore and broke up on good trems then i would say yes it would probably work for me, i am not a jealous person at all and if one of my exs wanted me to live with them or versa then yes but the only thing is that i would make sure the other women would not be bossing my children around

Answer 6

You might think it won't be a problem, but there's probably a reason y'all broke up. Would it really be healthy for anyone if you put yourself into that same situation? You might be putting your baby at risk. Move in with a friend, family, anyone but your ex. It'll save a huge headache!

Answer 7

If your feeling that you've stated above are true than yes you can live together. ever seen the house of pain shows? A lot of peopel live together that used to have a relationship. If you allow it it can work.

Answer 8

you say that now but really would you feel that way? your babys daddy with another woman? what if you happen to over hear them having sex? and if you do feel ok with that does he really do? or just saying that to make his babies and you closer to him? You dont want to burn any bridges with him considering he is the father of your kids... maybe think about it a little more.... do you have family you could stay with?

Answer 9

I couldn't. I guess it all has to do with the reason of the split-up and both of your forgiveness levels. Good luck!

Answer 10

i dont know, living together brings up old feeling, especially because you are pregnant, and trust me, that "i won't be jealous" attitude is good for talking... but when it actually happens, you won't be whistling the same tune.